We met at band camp the summer before freshman year and dated freshman and sophomore year of high school. We broke up because of stupid teenage stuff that I will take full blame for, I was a bitch in HS. Even after we both moved away for college we remained friends both of us still had a thing for the other but neither wanted to get hurt or hurt the other person again. 8 years later got back together. We had both grown up and still wanted to be together. A year after we got back together he proposed that was last summer.
I giggled at this, because I'm clearly still a teenager at times.
H and I never broke up and pretty much have been attached at the hip since we started dating 4 years ago. We have never fought really-- maybe stupid things here and there have annoyed us but never have yelled at each other or left any situation.
I know we he moved to open the business, I chose to stay back because at that point while I knew I wanted to be with him, moving was very scary for me. The plan was I move later so I could finish up commitments with my job. And at first I had it in my head that we had to be engaged before I moved... but it took 3 months of the LDR back and forth every weekend for me to realize that he was where I needed to be and I had to know I could live somewhere else, doing something else before I would want to commit to a marriage. So I put in my notice and packed up my stuff and moved. best decision I ever made. And while he has not said it, I have a feeling if I did not move when I did (or at least sooner than planned) he would have eventually broken up with me because the long distance was just hard on us both. My reasons for staying back at first were more of being scared and making excuses rather than thinking of what I wanted. I was thinking of everybody else and not of me or us. I had to put me first, and am so glad I did because it worked out for "us." (if that even makes sense!)
@erinlin25, I had something kind of similar with Fi when we were deciding if I should move in with him (we weren't long distance though): I was scared and he told me that he supports my choice in any way, but that me keeping my apartment was just a "security blanket" (I had set foot it in maybe three times since we'd started dating!) and that he wants us both to commit 100% to really see how it goes.
@erinlin25, I had something kind of similar with Fi when we were deciding if I should move in with him (we weren't long distance though): I was scared and he told me that he supports my choice in any way, but that me keeping my apartment was just a "security blanket" (I had set foot it in maybe three times since we'd started dating!) and that he wants us both to commit 100% to really see how it goes.
Best risk I ever took!
yup sometimes you just have to rip off the bandaid! Glad it worked out for you too
We met at band camp the summer before freshman year and dated freshman and sophomore year of high school. We broke up because of stupid teenage stuff that I will take full blame for, I was a bitch in HS. Even after we both moved away for college we remained friends both of us still had a thing for the other but neither wanted to get hurt or hurt the other person again. 8 years later got back together. We had both grown up and still wanted to be together. A year after we got back together he proposed that was last summer.
I giggled at this, because I'm clearly still a teenager at times.
@pumpkinsandturkeys I will give you more to giggle at I played flute he played drums. It is great that when people ask how we met I get to say "and this one time at band camp..."
Re: Did you and your FI ever break up?
I know we he moved to open the business, I chose to stay back because at that point while I knew I wanted to be with him, moving was very scary for me. The plan was I move later so I could finish up commitments with my job. And at first I had it in my head that we had to be engaged before I moved... but it took 3 months of the LDR back and forth every weekend for me to realize that he was where I needed to be and I had to know I could live somewhere else, doing something else before I would want to commit to a marriage. So I put in my notice and packed up my stuff and moved. best decision I ever made. And while he has not said it, I have a feeling if I did not move when I did (or at least sooner than planned) he would have eventually broken up with me because the long distance was just hard on us both. My reasons for staying back at first were more of being scared and making excuses rather than thinking of what I wanted. I was thinking of everybody else and not of me or us. I had to put me first, and am so glad I did because it worked out for "us." (if that even makes sense!)
Best risk I ever took!