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Wedding Etiquette Forum
Artemischief
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Got an invitation today...SECOND UPDATE
I got an invitation in the mail today for a wedding four months away addressed to Mr. and Mrs. We are not married and won't be for another three months. When I opened the envelope I saw that the (very pretty) invitation was marred, not only with registry information, but a honeyfund account as well! Yippee!
ETA: I just looked at their honeyfund page. They are calling gifts "donations." No thank you, my donations will be to charitable causes, not you getting drunk in the tropics.
UPDATE:
We also are registered with honeyfund.com. In planning our wedding we were surprised to see how much a honeymoon costs. So we’re offering a plan for guests to contribute to the cost of our honeymoon instead of purchasing a physical item. It’s a pretty cool idea. Please click on the Honeyfund image to the right to access that registry. (I clicked the link) "for your convenience there is a credit card option! but we would much prefer if you just send us a check to our home." How could I have missed that before?!SECOND UPDATE:
So, DH and I went to this wedding, (in appropriate attire that we were lucky enough to already own, thank goodness). We arrive about 15 minutes before the invitations stated. People are walking around everywhere, we have no idea what's going on.
The groom then shows up and shoos everyone to a different room and tells us to eat. We go, drink, eat. Then the bride taps me on the shoulder. No big entrance, no announcement, just out with everyone. I say something about almost being a married woman, she replies, "yep, just a few more hours." Turns out, this is the cocktail hour (and a half) and the wedding actually starts an hour and a half after the time on the invitation. After a little while the dj yells that it's time for the father daughter dance...before the wedding. The dj then yells again to just relax and drink more, we go to the bar, and they aren't serving anymore. DH asks his friend (the photographer) what's going on, even he had no clue.
We make it to our tables, and are asked to turn off our phones and cameras (yay) for the ceremony. During the reading, all ten members of their BP have a line to say, but no one is standing in the right order, so the microphone is passed back and forth across the bride and groom...each time, between every line. B&G then say their vows, but no one can hear (we later learn this was on purpose. They didn't want anyone to hear what they had written for each other.
Dinner comes out immediately, since we're already at our tables. We get one item at a time. Not course,item. With no menu, we didn't know how much more would be coming or what anything was. The best man did a speech at this time, basically 7 minutes of let me tell you the groom's life story.
After dinner, DH and I get a chance to talk to B&G. We ask about their honeymoon (which they honeyfunded asked for donations for). Yeah, they said they weren't going on a honeymoon... We sent a gift to them before the wedding, and still haven't gotten a thank you note. Hmmm, should I really be surprised?
Cake was eh. Drinks were good. Food was alright. Honestly though, I was just happy to go home.
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Re: Got an invitation today...SECOND UPDATE
WTF people?!?!? Too many people are just clueless or happened to read CNN's recent etiquette tips.
ETA: didn't read all the comments - @wrigleyville beat me to it!
I always wear hats in the sun, she would just have to get over that.
And to think when I was thinking of having a summer wedding I was going to encourage hats.
Haha
I think Bridgette (in the Yellow) looks fantastic!