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There will absolutely be no exes at my upcoming wedding. I am also uncomfortable with being round anyone my fiance has been with, so I understand that feeling. It doesn't have anything to do with insecurity or jealousy, it's just uncomfortable knowing that they were once in an intimate relationship with the man I am currently in an intimate relationship with. But- the difference is: my fiance knows how I feel about it. His family is still very much a part of one of his ex's life and they don't understand why he isn't inviting her to the wedding. It's out of respect for me and my feelings. You need to sit down and have an open and honest conversation with your beau about it all. If you are ever going to seriously consider marriage with this guy, then you first have to learn that honesty and respect are key building blocks to a healthy relationship.
I guess I just have a problem looking at someone he use to be inside of.... on our wedding day.
I really don't mean any offense but...the statement above seems pretty childish.
Don't get me wrong, you can feel however you do about having exes at your wedding. I'm confused why you're so focused on this girl though. Do you really think that on your (maybe fututre) wedding day the only thing you're going to be thinking about is how your (maybe future) husband "was inside" some girl years ago? If so, I think there are other underlying issues here.
Not weird or a red flag to me at all. My ex is still one of my best friend's and he'll be at my wedding, and I will be at his a few months later. Just because someone has slept with someone in the past, doesn't mean they're going to desire them for all eternity...it's ok to be friends, relax. LOL.
Not sure why you'd think it's a red flag when he clearly thinks so little of it that he mentioned it to you so nonchalantly and likewise invited her so casually. Perhaps he gave you way too much credit and assumed you were secure enough in your relationship to not feel a way about it. From the outside looking in, I definitely wouldn't see it as a problem, but I don't know what underlying issues or experiences exist in your relationship, so perhaps it's something you should discuss with him since it clearly bothers you.