The biggest wedding etiquette sins

Lizzieyounce · February 2014

I always have stationary on hand! I LOVE stationery, just love it. When I turned 16 my parents started me off with my own monogrammed, heavy stock stationary. I restock when I run low.

I just bought some beautiful peacock themed blank cards (suitable for thank you notes) the other day. They're gorgeous.

I use my stationery whenever I can…even to send notes to the kids school when they're absent, lol.

lovesclimbing · February 2014

I really want to get some pretty stationery. I should order some. Right now, I just use notebook paper to write letters on.

I had stationary when I was a kid. It was Lisa Frank and it was AWESOME!

ETA: This beautiful stuff! I loved it so much that when I ran out, I made my own, complete with multi-colored lines marked off with colored pens and a ruler on plain paper! I even made envelopes!

Jen4948 · February 2014

I think the biggest wedding etiquette sin of all is to hijack someone else's thread about wedding etiquette to go off on tangents, like stationery.

kmmssg · February 2014

Amyzen83 said:

kmmssg said:

You know, we sit here daily and discuss etiquette but the rest of the world is out there not doing that. Most people have NO idea that there is any reason to think pre-printed RSVPs are rude - I personally see them as a necessary thing in this day of far more casual lifestyles and interactions.

"Back in my day" you could go to a place like Walmart and buy matching stationery and envelopes. For kicks I checked the other day and there is none. I had the coolest pink and blue tie die stationery back in the 70's I used to write to my older brother. When I had a boyfriend in the Navy in 78-79 I had much nicer stationery to write to him. I was a huge letter writer so I would get the stuff for Christmas all the time - it was a really inexpensive gift that I used all the time.

Who writes letters every week anymore? Who has stationery anymore? Who even KNOWS you should respond on your own stationery to a wedding invitation?

I do agree with the list - and my DD has heard it all as we have planned her wedding. She doesn't disagree with any of it, but we pre-gamed for sure to make sure we were on the same page and there wouldn't be any planning problems.

I wish I got more letters and cards, it's almost become a chore going to the mailbox when all I find are bills, rubbish ads, and credit card applications I have to take the time to shred. Meh!
I love a good thank you note, invitation of some kind, or thoughtful post card from a loved one

I love those things too! Sadly, I am a part of the problem in those things disappearing as I email a lot rather than sending a nice note

FiancB · February 2014

Jen4948 said:

I think the biggest wedding etiquette sin of all is to hijack someone else's thread about wedding etiquette to go off on tangents, like stationery.

It's the internet. Just be glad it's stationery and not The Human Centipede.

kmmssg · February 2014

Jen4948 said:

I think the biggest wedding etiquette sin of all is to hijack someone else's thread about wedding etiquette to go off on tangents, like stationery.

Are you serious? That was no tangent and that is certainly not the biggest wedding etiquette sin. If you think that was a tangent, you did NOT get what I was saying.

Jen4948 · February 2014

kmmssg said:

Jen4948 said:

I think the biggest wedding etiquette sin of all is to hijack someone else's thread about wedding etiquette to go off on tangents, like stationery.

Are you serious? That was no tangent and that is certainly not the biggest wedding etiquette sin. If you think that was a tangent, you did NOT get what I was saying.

Look, I was not accusing you, @kmmssg, of anything, and yes, I DID get what you were saying. Unfortunately, other people who posted after you did turn this into a discussion about stationery, which they should have started another thread for instead of hijacking this one.

kmmssg · February 2014

@Jen4948, sorry, my bad.

Jen4948 · February 2014

kmmssg said:

@Jen4948, sorry, my bad.

Apology accepted.

EmilyAnn8973 · February 2014

Jenn, in the original list you said "unsupervised kids". I haven't heard that one before, would you mind clarifying? Does that mean it's poor etiquette on the part of the parents for not watching their invited children or bad etiquette on my part if I don't provide child care for invited children?

dolewhipper · February 2014

Could, "not knowing your audience", be one? One of my pinteresty-friends hopped on the burlap/lace theme and is having a formal wedding at a barn. I've been to this barn. This barn is NOT for heels/formal wear. I imagine the majority of guests have never been on a farm, let alone in a barn.

jenniferurs · February 2014

Cookie Pusher said:
Turning your guests into a captive audience, i.e. slideshows, absurd performances (I saw a YouTube vid yesterday of a couple who choreographed a whole battle with super heroes and bad guys involving the WP... it was awful), or too many/too long speeches

Guilty. But this is the only thing, so I think in the end, I've done okay.

Jen4948 · February 2014

EmilyAnn8973 said:

Jenn, in the original list you said "unsupervised kids". I haven't heard that one before, would you mind clarifying? Does that mean it's poor etiquette on the part of the parents for not watching their invited children or bad etiquette on my part if I don't provide child care for invited children?

It means children who are not supervised running around and otherwise behaving inappropriately. It's poor etiquette for their parents to let them do that and it's poor etiquette for the kids to do that.

Jen4948 · February 2014

shannonmaya said:

Could, "not knowing your audience", be one? One of my pinteresty-friends hopped on the burlap/lace theme and is having a formal wedding at a barn. I've been to this barn. This barn is NOT for heels/formal wear. I imagine the majority of guests have never been on a farm, let alone in a barn.

Maybe, but it's not really the biggest etiquette sin. The ones on the list and some of the others seem more egregious. For example, not having enough food or seats for everyone invited really is a major etiquette sin, but this seems to just be more a matter of taste than etiquette. There's no etiquette requirement that everyone have good taste.

Amyzen83 · February 2014

Ooooooh here's a gem I just personally experienced! Bride bitching that her bridesmaids didn't get her any gifts or cards! Ummmm... sorry, but I was too busy that week doing stuff for YOUR Speshal day that I frankly rand out of time to get you the card but was planning on sending one After the wedding. And being a bridesmaid especially for this snowflake was expensive, not to mention I have MY OWN wedding to pay for and have other close friends getting married, so yea I'm not made of money to spend on entitled brats.

abt87 · March 2014

How about this: "in lieu of Thank Yous, a donation will be made to X charity". In the ceremony program

Amyzen83 · March 2014

Never saw this done but I think that's pretty crappy especially if were a charity I don't give two shits about.

banana468 · March 2014

Musikalbunni said:
Gift Grabby Folks

My mom and I were invited to a Bridal Shower this weekend.
Bride Posted this gem on FB this morning: "Thanks to everyone who showed up to my bridal shower and brought gifts like normal people. The rest of you who just showed up to eat, I am over it."

My mom instantly regretted bringing a gift...We just decided over text to screw her wedding.

Effen Rude!

Who writes that? !?

Amyzen83 · March 2014

Rude!!!

grumbledore · March 2014

Musikalbunni said:

Gift Grabby Folks

My mom and I were invited to a Bridal Shower this weekend.
Bride Posted this gem on FB this morning: "Thanks to everyone who showed up to my bridal shower and brought gifts like normal people. The rest of you who just showed up to eat, I am over it."

My mom instantly regretted bringing a gift...We just decided over text to screw her wedding.

Effen Rude!

Yeah I would not be attending that wedding or any future baby shower. What a b.

2leadsingers · March 2014

lovesclimbing said:

I really want to get some pretty stationery. I should order some. Right now, I just use notebook paper to write letters on.

I had stationary when I was a kid. It was Lisa Frank and it was AWESOME!

ETA: This beautiful stuff! I loved it so much that when I ran out, I made my own, complete with multi-colored lines marked off with colored pens and a ruler on plain paper! I even made envelopes!

I thought I was the only one who did that, my mom wouldn't buy more!

2leadsingers · March 2014

grumbledore said:

Musikalbunni said:

Gift Grabby Folks

My mom and I were invited to a Bridal Shower this weekend.
Bride Posted this gem on FB this morning: "Thanks to everyone who showed up to my bridal shower and brought gifts like normal people. The rest of you who just showed up to eat, I am over it."

My mom instantly regretted bringing a gift...We just decided over text to screw her wedding.

Effen Rude!

Yeah I would not be attending that wedding or any future baby shower. What a b

This!

kkitkat79 · March 2014

I think there is a winner from the other thread as THE biggest wedding etiquette sin, NOTHING can compare to this - getting a divorce to have a bigger wedding.

thisismynickname2 · March 2014

2leadsingers said:

grumbledore said:

Musikalbunni said:

Gift Grabby Folks

My mom and I were invited to a Bridal Shower this weekend.
Bride Posted this gem on FB this morning: "Thanks to everyone who showed up to my bridal shower and brought gifts like normal people. The rest of you who just showed up to eat, I am over it."

My mom instantly regretted bringing a gift...We just decided over text to screw her wedding.

Effen Rude!

Yeah I would not be attending that wedding or any future baby shower. What a b

This!

This literally made my jaw drop. "Dear Bride, Your post is appalling. My mother and I brought you gifts, and will decline to attend any further events until you learn to appreciate people over material goods." Defriend.

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