Is TK making me a horrible person?

Re: Is TK making me a horrible person?

• JCbride2015 member

  

  March 2014

  SBmini said:

  I have noticed that TK has made me less... tolerant of some things I see and more judging of others. I.e. when a friend showed me a mutual friend's invitations (she posted them on instagram) I just commented on how tacky it was to share wedding related stuff with people not invited to the wedding.

  
  

  But in this regard- you are totally correct. If, as a grown adult, you don't have access to $800 in savings, credit or things around the house that you can sell, than you have issues way beyond a sick animal that you need to address. And said animal should be given away to a family that can properly care for it opposed to being put on death row over such a small amount. I wouldn't bat an eye at dropping $800 to save my dog's live. That is such a ridiculously petty amount in the grand scheme of things!

  Exactly.  I find it hard to believe they don't have at least $875 in space on a credit card, or something they can sell, or dip into their savings.  The GFM just seems to say they don't actually want to make any of those sacrifices, and will let their cat die rather than spend the money.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  "I'm not a rude bitch.  I'm ten rude bitches in a large coat."

  
  

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• MairePoppy mod

  

  March 2014

  abbyj700 said:

  Where were you a few weeks ago when I felt the same way? 

  
  

  I posted this same sorta rant on another forum I post on and got eaten alive for being a bitch by some. A guy I knew in college posted a fundme for like $14,000 to update his HVAC. My response on the other forum I post on is that if you're going to own a home you need to know expenses will happen and take care of that shit yourself.

  
  

  Other friends are posting fundmes for sending their kids to summer camps and trips to DC. One friend was smart about it and many people contributed. He designed a tshirt and is marketing them to pay for his daughters summer music camp. The shirt is cute, fun and not just him asking for a hand out so his daughter can learn to to play viola.

  
  

  As a home-owner, soon to be step mom, and dog mommy - I feel for everyone on surprise expenses. But I've never even thought of doing one of these accounts. As others have said - if things got bad enough - I would personally ask a friend or family member - not post on facebook.

  Are you saying you posted this on TK and you were eaten alive? That would be very strange, indeed. Point me in that direction, please, I'd like to comment.

  
  

  FWIW, none of the purposes you mentioned are worthy of charity, not even the cute T-shirts for music camp. No wonder there are adults,these days, who expect family members to chip in for their honeymoons, vet bills,  home improvements etc....

  
  

  
  

                     

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• abbyj700 member

  

  March 2014

  ^No, I have posted on another websites forums for years and vented there. I should have vented here. 

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• MairePoppy mod

  

  March 2014

  The other wedding websites aren't known for common sense and good etiquette. 

                     

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• Sugargirl1019 member

  

  March 2014

  I agree with the craziness of not having 875 in savings or credit or SOMETHING.. how?? they have some very big problems and should not have one of God's creatures! Poor kitty.
  
  I have heard of people doing funds for their child's cancer treatment (but that's also usually several tens of thousands of dollars..). That is the only fund I would ever consider donating to (hits close to home).
  
  House updates? Vacations? Summer camps? Vet bills? Nope. Prioritize your finances and get your act together.

        
  

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• lovesclimbing member

  

  March 2014

  I have friends who post GoFundMe's or don't even bother with that, just say "call me, FB message me if you can donate" for their college expenses.  It really bugs me.  Take out a loan. Or don't go to a college where you can't get a loan!! (I have a friend in this situation)

  
  

  H and I were dead broke after our wedding.  He got laid off about a month before the wedding.  He got hired again about a week later, but wasn't able to start working until just a few days before the wedding. Of course, after we'd already paid everything on our honeymoon, so cancelling wouldn't have saved very much. I'm in college and wasn't working at the time, so I had no income.

  
  

  That wasn't expected but we made it work.  Our account was overdrawn for the last few days or a week of every pay period for about five months.  We barely made rent, and were late at least once.  But we didn't tell ANYONE, not even our families, and we made it work.  That's what adults do.

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