Did you do anything that others would think is weird?

SBmini · March 2014

Definitely the dancers my FMIL hired to dance at the reception. They are going to do some traditional Armenian dances and then some pop/jazz stuff too. I think it is over the top, but she said my fiance really wanted it and to keep it a surprise. So I'm just letting it happen.

AddieCake · March 2014

Some people thought it was odd that we had uneven and mixed gender sides and that my husband put his facial piercings in (at my request) for the reception.

climbingsingle · March 2014

I'm only having a MOH and I told her to wear whatever she wants. I don't even know what color she's wearing.

We're not doing a bouquet toss, garter toss or a cake cutting. And we're not having a traditional wedding cake. I work at a pastry manufacturer so they'll be supplying my desserts (cheesecake!).

I also don't want a shower. I got married before 10 years ago. I have more than enough stuff. I've even had people try to talk me into a honeymoon fund and a couples shower.

ShallowSeas · March 2014

Some of our family thinks its weird that FI and the GM arent wearing jackets...just dress pants, dress shirt, and suspenders. FI requested this.

Our song choices. We are having Vitamin C Quartet played before the ceremony, during cocktail hour, and during dinner. Our recessional song is from the movie Brave. Us and the BP are walking out to Dropkick Murphey's Shipping out to Boston at the reception. T

I'm not wearing a veil

Surprisingly enough, a cash bar. Its normal on both sides of our families to have cash bars, but I refuse and can't get some people to understand why.

Dollar Dance. I've never been to a wedding that DIDN'T have one and neither has FI, but I refuse to do it. Our families and friends think its weird. I just don't want to feel like a hooker looking for money. Sorry.

We are having Celtic Blessing Stones.

photokitty · March 2014

I don't think anyone thought any of it was weird, at least the ones that know me, but…

-no bridal party

-flower girl dropped stars instead of pedals

-ring bearer had a red, white & blue flashing ring on his pillow and wore a sailor suit

-large group photo of all the guests in attendance

-we had indoor sparklers for out entrance

-white chocolate raspberry cake and apple pie - not the actual wedding cake. DH's mom made us a small cake

-combined mom/son & father/daughter dance for 90 seconds - nobody wants to sit through 3, let alone 4, full songs of spotlight dances

-my 5 siblings (and some of the SOs) and I always do a choreographed danced to Nitty Gritty Dirt Band's Fishing In The Dark (tradition at our sib weddings from a childhood talent show win :-p) ETA this and below "dances" are done late into the evening

-my extended family does the full gig to Paradise By The Dashboard Light, compete with a slide into home base by my brother.

-stopped the dance party for the fireworks

-late night snack of corn dogs, hot pretzels & house made chips

phira · March 2014

@TwoDimes Thank you!! We're really excited about it! I don't get why people keep imagining us spending our honeymoon walking around Chicago in the freezing cold. It's our HONEYMOON. We might not leave the hotel room anyway!

@photokitty Agreed. It's hard enough to sit through a first dance, especially when it's an entire slow song. Went to a wedding with a slow first dance, and then slow songs for consecutive parent dancing. I love the bride dearly but all I could think about was the first course.

@jenna8984 I don't judge people who have showers (whether a traditional bridal shower or a Jack and Jill shower). I've felt so much pressure to have a shower; a lot of people just don't seem to accept my, "No thanks, no shower for me" at face value. I think some people think I say I don't want a shower even though I want one, because I must think I need to be a righteous feminist or something. But in reality, I'm uncomfortable with the concept. I don't even like opening presents in front of lots of people on my birthday! And I love my birthday.

SammiNJonni · March 2014

Here are our plans
- Bridesmaids will be in mismatched dresses all same color and fabric
- Processional songs include the game of thrones theme (for FI) and skyrim/morrowind medely (bridal party)
- Recessional song from Shrek
- Uneven bridal party
- Not getting married in a church. My grandmother had an issue with this one
- Doing a first look and spending the night before together
- Head table WITH SOs and children
- Having a colored crinoline
- Dancing to Beauty and the Beast (no I do not think my FI is a beast. thank you FMIL for thinking I am calling your son a beast. FI chose the theme and first dance song I am just choreographing)

JennyColada · March 2014

We are having a very small (immediate family only) ceremony/reception, so I suppose that's a bit "odd"?

Because of that, we're skipping a WP and most of the wedding "flair". Really the only thing "wedding" about my wedding will be the vows and the fact that I want to hold a bouquet.

I'm not 100% sure what I'm going to wear yet, but I'm pretty sure that it won't be a "classic" wedding dress (right now I'm leaning towards a mint colored Jcrew bridesmaid dress, but we'll see).

pumpkinsandturkeys · March 2014

Jennycolada said:

We are having a very small (immediate family only) ceremony/reception, so I suppose that's a bit "odd"?
Because of that, we're skipping a WP and most of the wedding "flair". Really the only thing "wedding" about my wedding will be the vows and the fact that I want to hold a bouquet.
I'm not 100% sure what I'm going to wear yet, but I'm pretty sure that it won't be a "classic" wedding dress (right now I'm leaning towards a mint colored Jcrew bridesmaid dress, but we'll see).

@jennycolada -- another bride recently decided on a mint dress, too! I feel as though the thread was about coloured dresses, in Attire, maybe?

MollyandD · March 2014

Oh, yet another thing... I don't want to have toasts or speeches. My mom and the coordinator are trying to talk me into having them, but the idea makes me completely uncomfortable. My fiancé and I also don't want to say anything beyond "I do," during the ceremony. We are asking the officiant to not ask us to repeat after him nor are we saying our own vows. I feel comfortable with saying "I do," after everything and letting that be that. Oh, and we are asking to cut the part where the officiant asks if I promise to obey. I'm not obeying him, and it will not go into my marriage vows. I will respect him, love him, and discuss all important issues with him as adults. That's as far as I will go.

BMoreBride6 · March 2014

Most of our wedding was very traditional, as our style is really more of a timeless, classic, style anyway but I had 3 MOH's which was apparently very confusing for some people to understand. I also had the bridal party (DH and myself included) enter to a string quartet version of Seven Nation Army at the reception. We are a huge Ravens family and Seven Nation Army is a big tradition in the stadium.

BMoreBride6 · March 2014

Molly&Domenic said:

Oh, yet another thing... I don't want to have toasts or speeches. My mom and the coordinator are trying to talk me into having them, but the idea makes me completely uncomfortable. My fiancé and I also don't want to say anything beyond "I do," during the ceremony. We are asking the officiant to not ask us to repeat after him nor are we saying our own vows. I feel comfortable with saying "I do," after everything and letting that be that. Oh, and we are asking to cut the part where the officiant asks if I promise to obey. I'm not obeying him, and it will not go into my marriage vows. I will respect him, love him, and discuss all important issues with him as adults. That's as far as I will go.

We had very traditional, Christian vows but nothing involved the word obey or anything like that.

labro · March 2014

I don't think we're doing anything TOO out there but I know I've said some things that my FI has been flabbergasted about including:

Our uneven wedding party - I'll have 6 BM's and he'll have 4 GM.

I don't want to do a bouquet toss or a garter toss. I still might do the bouquet toss if all of my cousin's children come (lots of little girls) but otherwise not. FI didn't understand why and when I pointed out how it would probably make the 4 to 5 single people at our wedding feel he started to understand. Most of our friends are married now or will be married before the wedding and I just don't see the point of making FI's lone single GM stand by himself and try to catch a garter or make 3 of my BM's plus maybe 1 or 2 other women stand up in a small group to catch a bouquet.

We're going to Munich and touring a couple of other cities in Bavaria for our honeymoon. Yes, it's still a big HM trip but it's not your typical cruise, beach, resort vacation. Germany isn't exactly a normal HM destination.

I'm not planning to wear a veil. I just didn't like the look when I tried them on with my dress.

MollyandD · March 2014

Molly&Domenic said:

Oh, yet another thing... I don't want to have toasts or speeches. My mom and the coordinator are trying to talk me into having them, but the idea makes me completely uncomfortable. My fiancé and I also don't want to say anything beyond "I do," during the ceremony. We are asking the officiant to not ask us to repeat after him nor are we saying our own vows. I feel comfortable with saying "I do," after everything and letting that be that. Oh, and we are asking to cut the part where the officiant asks if I promise to obey. I'm not obeying him, and it will not go into my marriage vows. I will respect him, love him, and discuss all important issues with him as adults. That's as far as I will go.

We had very traditional, Christian vows but nothing involved the word obey or anything like that.

The script I was shown had a part that would ask if I (not the man, just the woman) promised "to honor and obey" my husband. I am only leaving out the obey part. I might ask if they will change obey to respect.

KatWAG · March 2014

Here are our "weird" things

An extremely uneven bridal party (6 and12)

no ushers

did ALL of our pictures before the ceremony so we could attend the entire reception

No garter/ bouquet toss

no ring bearer or flower girl

we made no exceptions for kids.

Senecaf · March 2014

I'm making my dress and growing my flowers. That makes me crazy apparently.

Other that nothing crazy

jdluvr06 · March 2014

I've declined having a shower too. I don't even want people to bring gifts for the wedding let alone an entire party of people giving me stuff. It makes me uncomfortable when people buy stuff for me. Lol. We're not doing the garter or bouquet toss either, however we are doing the cake thing. Anything that could possibly start a food fight is awesome.

BMoreBride6 · March 2014

Senecaf said:

I'm making my dress and growing my flowers. That makes me crazy apparently. Other that nothing crazy

Wow, that's pretty cool! And your picture is too cute!

rajahmd · March 2014

Pink wedding dress.

Non-matching bridesmaids, in white dresses.

Opal engagement ring.

Sunday wedding (that's weird for alot of people).

We wrote our own vows.

Sand ceremony instead of unity candle (no one's ever done one in my family before).

Groom as escorted down the aisle by his mom.

Bridesmaids and groomsmen walked down the aisle together.

jenna8984 · March 2014

In addition to my answer before, I am with you ladies who are not doing bouquet toss/ garter toss/ cake cutting/ no cake. We are also going with the "dinner party" feel, very intimate just talking and laughing, sitting by the fire, dancing a little. I specifically kept the guest list very small so that I'd be able to sit down and just talk to people (everyone). My brother's wedding where he had to run around saying 2 words to 200 people is my exact opposite of a good time.

Ven&Radio · March 2014

I keep remembering other wierd stuff we did:
- H walked down the aisle arm-in-arm with his brother (the best man)
- During the reception, H got a lap dance from his brother, my uncle, his cousins and their husbands, and his grandmother -- this is semi-traditional in his family

lightningsnow · March 2014

Am I the only one who picked up that OP referenced her boyfriend, not her FI/FH in the OP?

Senecaf · March 2014

lightningsnow said:
Am I the only one who picked up that OP referenced her boyfriend, not her FI/FH in the OP?

I didn't because I don't think it matters

MollyandD · March 2014

Senecaf said:

Am I the only one who picked up that OP referenced her boyfriend, not her FI/FH in the OP?
I didn't because I don't think it matters

It doesn't matter. I go back and forth with what I call him. As long as I call him husband after June 28th, who cares, right? I'm not any less engaged. Haha

JennyColada · March 2014

Oh. Since we're doing a reception as just a nice dinner I think I might use the cake cutting tradition as an excuse to take a bite of everyone's desserts. Mwahahaha.

MollyandD · March 2014

I keep remembering other wierd stuff we did:
- H walked down the aisle arm-in-arm with his brother (the best man)
- During the reception, H got a lap dance from his brother, my uncle, his cousins and their husbands, and his grandmother -- this is semi-traditional in his family

When I first read this, I read that your husband got a lap dance from his brother, your uncle. I don't know why my brain stopped there instead of finishing the sentence before I reacted. Lol.

Fran1985 · March 2014

lightningsnow said:

Am I the only one who picked up that OP referenced her boyfriend, not her FI/FH in the OP?

You know that saying about glass houses? If you are trying to pretend like this is your first time posting on TK I wouldn't try to stir up stuff with other posters.

MollyandD · March 2014

lightningsnow said:

Am I the only one who picked up that OP referenced her boyfriend, not her FI/FH in the OP?

You know that saying about glass houses? If you are trying to pretend like this is your first time posting on TK I wouldn't try to stir up stuff with other posters.

I just figured she thinks I'm not really engaged. Or maybe she suspects I have two lovers, fiancé and boyfriend. Well rest assured, as my fiancé and my boyfriend are the same guy.

QueerFemme · March 2014

My best friend/MOH walked me down the aisle. And out of 130 people, only one person I was related to was invited. The rest were my partner's family and our friends. I wasn't wasting a slot on anyone I didn't want there, I didn't care how they knew me.

whitjoy · March 2014

My cake is a giant, white deer, I didn't hire one of the photographers I met with because she told me it was weird.

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