Did you do anything that others would think is weird?

lightningsnow · March 2014

Molly&Domenic said:

lightningsnow said:

Am I the only one who picked up that OP referenced her boyfriend, not her FI/FH in the OP?

You know that saying about glass houses? If you are trying to pretend like this is your first time posting on TK I wouldn't try to stir up stuff with other posters.
I just figured she thinks I'm not really engaged. Or maybe she suspects I have two lovers, fiancé and boyfriend. Well rest assured, as my fiancé and my boyfriend are the same guy.

I apologize. I just found it strange you referenced him as such. On these boards, women are told not to pre-plan if they aren't engaged. I apologize again, my mistake.

emmaaa · March 2014

Our wedding ceremony will be very traditional. However, I'm not having a rng bearer or flower girl. My mom thinks this is crazy! She wants me to ask my cousin's little girl who, don't get me wrong, is absoluely adorable, but she is very shy and doesn't like anyone. I want to ask my FI's parent's "adopted" granddaughter, who I am very close to and love. So I just decided not to ask any and spare feelings. We are having a 14 person WP so I doubt anyone will miss them.

MollyandD · March 2014

My cake is a giant, white deer, I didn't hire one of the photographers I met with because she told me it was weird.

I wouldn't hire anyone who told me my ideas were weird either. If I'm paying you, at least pretend you think it's great.

MollyandD · March 2014

lightningsnow said:

Molly&Domenic said:

lightningsnow said:

Am I the only one who picked up that OP referenced her boyfriend, not her FI/FH in the OP?

You know that saying about glass houses? If you are trying to pretend like this is your first time posting on TK I wouldn't try to stir up stuff with other posters.
I just figured she thinks I'm not really engaged. Or maybe she suspects I have two lovers, fiancé and boyfriend. Well rest assured, as my fiancé and my boyfriend are the same guy.

I apologize. I just found it strange you referenced him as such. On these boards, women are told not to pre-plan if they aren't engaged. I apologize again, my mistake.

It's no big deal. I'm not pre-planning. I got engaged in June. It'd be pretty weird if I had booked my venue, bought my dress, and picked a bridal party all while wondering if he was "the one."

lightningsnow · March 2014

Molly&Domenic said:

lightningsnow said:

Molly&Domenic said:

lightningsnow said:

Am I the only one who picked up that OP referenced her boyfriend, not her FI/FH in the OP?

You know that saying about glass houses? If you are trying to pretend like this is your first time posting on TK I wouldn't try to stir up stuff with other posters.
I just figured she thinks I'm not really engaged. Or maybe she suspects I have two lovers, fiancé and boyfriend. Well rest assured, as my fiancé and my boyfriend are the same guy.

I apologize. I just found it strange you referenced him as such. On these boards, women are told not to pre-plan if they aren't engaged. I apologize again, my mistake.

It's no big deal. I'm not pre-planning. I got engaged in June. It'd be pretty weird if I had booked my venue, bought my dress, and picked a bridal party all while wondering if he was "the one."

Exactly. Again, I didn't realize it.

winelover123 · March 2014

We had quite a few things that people probably thought were odd:

I didn't wear white - I wore gold. It was also short and custom made.
My engagement ring is garnet.
My BMs got their dresses from JC Penny's.
I walked down the aisle to What a Wonderful World/Somewhere Over the Rainbow
We didn't do the money dance (a tradition on both sides - MIL actually told me she missed having it)
We got our cake from a distributor instead of a bakery and didn't cut it
We didn't do the garter/bouquet toss and did the anniversary dance instead
It was on a Friday night
People saw me before I walked down the aisle

JennyColada · March 2014

Molly&Domenic, I often refer to Fi as my "boyfriend" outside of TK as well. I thought I was the only one.

phira · March 2014

I call mine my partner, which has resulted in a LOT of people thinking we were in a same-sex relationship. I just always felt weird saying "boyfriend" when we're not 20 years old and he's my emergency contact.

mysticl · March 2014

The plan was for DH to escort his mother to light her taper for the unity candle and seat her and then for my step-dad to escort my mom for the candle lighting and then to their seats. Well, MIL and the organist informed me at the rehearsal that the groom does not seat his mother and my step-dad stated he didn't want to seat my mother. So MIL was escorted/seated by her son-in-law and my mom was escorted/seated by my step-brother since they were our ushers. At that point I honestly didn't give a crap and basically said "whatever". To this day I have no idea why they were so opposed to the idea.

I had a cookie table too. My parents (mom and bio dad) are from outside of Pittsburgh and I lived there as a young adult so for my biological family and college friends it was expected. However, the wedding was in VA and DH's family was not familiar with the concept. It was a huge hit with everyone.

I don't know if people found this weird but the bridal party was uneven and we didn't do the tosses.

phira · March 2014

I didn't even bother listing that we weren't getting married in a religious setting, that we were skipping tosses, and that we weren't having children in the wedding party because all three of those things are entirely normal in my family and friend group.

@mysticl So, my dad is kiiiind of an asshole, and he's very into traditional gender roles. However, when he and my mom got married, he wanted to walk down the aisle. His reason for wanting to walk down the aisle was pretty silly (in my opinion): he was expected to enter the temple through a side door that led directly from the lawn outside. He thought it wasn't fair that he had to wait outside on the grass and then come in to stand at the altar.

However stupid I think his reasoning was, I do feel kind of annoyed for him because my mom's parents, who had the big book o' wedding etiquette/traditions, insisted that it was absolutely forbidden that the groom walk down the aisle. Like, the wedding almost got cancelled because my grandparents, who were paying, did not want the groom to walk down the aisle because that's just not how it was done. I mean, both families were Jewish, and it IS Jewish tradition for the groom to be walked down the aisle by both parents (followed by the bride escorted by both her parents). So I have NO idea why it was such a problem.

He ended up walking down the aisle. Like I said, my dad's an asshole, but come on, who CARES if the groom walks down the aisle?

lc07 · March 2014

@phira - Here I go being creepy but I totally wish we were friends IRL.

Also, with so much fucked up shit that happens in life it is so surprising that people get so bent out of shape about things that do. not. matter.

phira · March 2014

@lc07 SAME HERE.

smgold6 · March 2014

-Our wedding is in the afternoon and we are doing an early dinner. (for some reason that confuses people).

-We're having our wedding a Busch Stadium.

-We aren't having children as it is what FI and I want as well as our venue isn't conducive to having children.

-We are also having a nondenominational wedding.

CMGragain · March 2014

People thought it was very weird that I would marry someone whom I was only together with for four days. We've been married 37 years.

abbyj700 · March 2014

Weird? Eh - sure. Still planning but this is where we're at with "weird".

-Our ring bear is a girl.

-We're having no flower girls or garter/bouquet toss.

-I refuse to wear a traditional veil. Every bridal shop I went to seemed to find that horrible odd.

-At the entrance to our wedding we're going to have a picture of our dogs -the our pug (male) will be wearing a tuxedo t-shirt, and our boxer (female) will be wearing a veil in the photograph.

-Our center pieces are going to be made from Jack Daniels bottles as well as our invitations will look like Jack Daniels labels.

-Some of our photographs are being taken in the large international market connected to our venue.

-The venue itself has a giant chandelier over the grand staircase - it's a bunch of grapes. :-)

-And all of our wedding party is listed on the website as "Wenches and Henchmen" - terms made up by the groom and several of the crazy "wenches" in our wedding!

abbyj700 · March 2014

mysticl said:

The plan was for DH to escort his mother to light her taper for the unity candle and seat her and then for my step-dad to escort my mom for the candle lighting and then to their seats. Well, MIL and the organist informed me at the rehearsal that the groom does not seat his mother and my step-dad stated he didn't want to seat my mother. So MIL was escorted/seated by her son-in-law and my mom was escorted/seated by my step-brother since they were our ushers. At that point I honestly didn't give a crap and basically said "whatever". To this day I have no idea why they were so opposed to the idea.

I had a cookie table too. My parents (mom and bio dad) are from outside of Pittsburgh and I lived there as a young adult so for my biological family and college friends it was expected. However, the wedding was in VA and DH's family was not familiar with the concept. It was a huge hit with everyone.

I don't know if people found this weird but the bridal party was uneven and we didn't do the tosses.

I'm from outside of Pittsburgh and we're having a cookie table too! Yay! Everyone I tell about it here in Cincinnati finds it to be a wonderful tradition because they get homemade cookies!

CookieD86 · March 2014

We come from traditional Italian Families, and we are having a nice healthy mix of heavy metal music being played.

\m/

Fairyjen1 · March 2014

My engagement ring was $149 and has Mickey Mouse on it. I think it's very pretty and I love it. I'm not good at taking care of nice expensive jewelry and we are both huge Disney fans (got engaged at Walt Disney World). No one has said anything to my face, but I'm sure someone is judging behind my back.

We are getting married at Disneyland. Immediate family only, on a Monday. Both our families, included extended family, are totally fine with this, it's friends who are acting like we are snubbing them somehow. I guess we are, by doing immediate family only, but that's how it goes. I've only had one person exclaim "Why would you want to get married at Disneyland?!? It's a wedding, not a child's birthday party!" I realize there are probably more people that think that way (probably many on these boards), but oh well, it's not their wedding. Disney's wedding packages are actually pretty reasonable, price-wise.

I want to walk down the aisle to something from Tron:Legacy. I'm a huge Daft punk fan and Tron is one of the most beautiful soundtracks ever. Whoever said they were using the Morrowind theme, that is a good one too! I may look at that.

pinkshorts27 · March 2014

CMGragain said:

People thought it was very weird that I would marry someone whom I was only together with for four days. We've been married 37 years.

My great-grandpa married a women from a different town at 17 (she was 16). They had known each other 5 days. He left and built her a house then traveled back to her town. He happened to get there at night. They woke the judge up, who then married them in their PJs. He took her back to her father's house for a few days. He got the house habitable and then went and picked her up. Everyone said they were crazy. They were devoted to each other and married 66 years before she died. They worked hard to support each other. He was in the military, built many of the roads in Idaho and Montana, farmed, and managed. She worked as a nurse, mother, and caretaker. He completely crumbled when she passed, became a shadow of the man he was. He is still funny, smart, quick, sometimes-judgmental, hard working, etc. But he wasn't the same.

LadyMillil · March 2014

The only weird thing we are doing is having cards and board games at the reception.

There are a lot of things we are not doing that are normal for weddings in my hometown that my family thinks are weird

We did not have a stag and doe (every one has one)

We are not having a cash bar (we are hosting drinks)

We did not include registry info with the invites

We are doing a first look

We do not have a gap, so our wedding is in the evening instead of 2PM

SammiNJonni · March 2014

Fairyjen1 said:

My engagement ring was $149 and has Mickey Mouse on it. I think it's very pretty and I love it. I'm not good at taking care of nice expensive jewelry and we are both huge Disney fans (got engaged at Walt Disney World). No one has said anything to my face, but I'm sure someone is judging behind my back.

We are getting married at Disneyland. Immediate family only, on a Monday. Both our families, included extended family, are totally fine with this, it's friends who are acting like we are snubbing them somehow. I guess we are, by doing immediate family only, but that's how it goes. I've only had one person exclaim "Why would you want to get married at Disneyland?!? It's a wedding, not a child's birthday party!" I realize there are probably more people that think that way (probably many on these boards), but oh well, it's not their wedding. Disney's wedding packages are actually pretty reasonable, price-wise.

I want to walk down the aisle to something from Tron:Legacy. I'm a huge Daft punk fan and Tron is one of the most beautiful soundtracks ever. Whoever said they were using the Morrowind theme, that is a good one too! I may look at that.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W5RB-gr9DTUFairyjen1 here is the song we are using.

casey8784 · March 2014

We're having a Jewish wedding. I grew up Reform, my FI grew up Orthodox. His family sometimes makes comments like, "Well, why are you doing this? You should be doing this?" Half the stuff they comment about I had never heard of since I'm not as religious, and they probably are just curious/trying to be helpful, but sometimes if I'm not in the mood for it, and consider it nagging...lol

erinlin25 · March 2014

lc07 said:

NavyBlue143 said:

I wore a plain red dress. No beading or lace or anything. My mom called it a prom dress. I loved it. I also wore black lace gloves and a silver veil. And black shoes. No white in our wedding at all. A few people didn't like that. Our wedding party didn't match, they were all given a color scheme and that was it. Bridesmaids carried parasols. I had a Bridesman. Sides were uneven. My wedding band stone is a garnet. H wore a kilt and had all his piercings in. And our ceremony was half pagan and completely bungled. That was interesting.

After I bought my dress, I still looked around and ended up finding my dress on a prom site. It ended up being the one. I love it. I did cross my fingers that none of my cousins in attendance had chosen it for prom that year. I also have a colored gemstone as my engagement ring. Mine is amethyst. Garnet is beautiful!

pretty!! I thought about doing that but ultimately went with diamond.

erinlin25 · March 2014

jenniferurs said:

Yes. I have 5 bridesmen in addition to 5 bridesmaids. Some people think it's weird that I'm having guys stand up there with me and some think it's weird that we're having a 20 person bridal party in total. Some people might also find it weird that the 10 groomsmen on FI's side are wearing sneakers with their tuxes or that I'm wearing flip flops under my dress or that I'm walking down the aisle to Bruno Mars. But the weirdest thing by far is the fact that the mascot for the university I attended will be the "person" walking me down the aisle. Can't wait to see the look on everyone's faces when he emerges in full costume.

THIS IS AWESOME! I want to see pictures!

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