Grumble grumble *update

Re: Grumble grumble *update

• theartistformerlyknownas member

  

  March 2014

  But how awesome would it be if a leprechaun brought you a pot o' gold?! ;-)

  
  

  In all seriousness... I would outline precisely how much this increases your total by, including extra linens, extra chairs, extra centerpieces, extra programs, extra favors, extra cake (assuming all these people even fit into your venue). What does all THAT add up to? And bear in mind that it can often be a big burden for single people to even find a date to bring... I had a coworker who all but offered to pay people to be his +1 because he felt like since he "got one," he needed to bring one. I personally thought it was a relief when I was single to not have to find someone to bring. Plus, then I got to hit on the hot groomsmen in peace - maybe there will be a love connection at your wedding! And keep in mind the dangers of having 40 total strangers at your wedding... they could be horrible people who are rude to your other guests, sloppy drunks, exes of other guests, etc. Not to say strangers should never be welcome, but that's a HUGE number of people you'll have no idea about until potentially the day of your wedding. If your FI has honestly and thoughtfully considered all these things and the personal sacrifices it will take on both your parts to accommodate these people, then I think it's up to him to decide where that extra money comes from. Is having a kickass nursery for your future baby worth giving up in favor of having your cousin's mailman attend your wedding? For how long is he willing to eat Ramen noodles to accommodate that girl Uncle Larry just met at the gas station?

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• themuffinman16 member

  

  March 2014

  I am feeling much better, today.  FI and I talked, last night.  I told him I was worried about this wedding taking up so much of our money, that it might eliminate our chances of getting a house. I didn't want to wait much longer to start trying to have a baby because of the uphill battle we might face.  He told me that only one person will bring a plus one, but everyone else won't.  He also said he will cut our guest list to not include third cousins. (I honestly don't know why they were invited, in the first place because he hasn't met most of them, he only knows their parents)  So I am relieved that the guest list will pretty much stay the same, and that we were able to talk it out.

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• Inkdancer member

  

  March 2014

  So glad you were able to talk it out and make it work!
  

  

  

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