MOH Dress Question

Re: MOH Dress Question

• delujm0 member

  

  March 2014

  I don't think you're out of line...you're being very easy going allowing her to pick the dress itself and not making any other demands of her.  The color choice is yours.  You are completely within your rights ot tell her she needs to stick with your established color scheme.

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• HisGirlFriday13 member

  

  March 2014

  The strict etiquette answer is that you are not out of line at all. One of the very basic rights of the bride is to choose the colours of her wedding (and of her attendants' dresses).

  
  

  You were more than reasonable in giving her free reign of any dress style or price point in a range of colours. 

  
  

  You would absolutely be within your rights to say, 'Sis, I get that you love the blue dress, but our colours are pale pink, mint green, and gold, so please pick a dress in one of those colours.'

  
  

  Only you, however, know if this is a battle worth fighting with your sister. 

  

  
  

  
  

  I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'

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• theartistformerlyknownas member

  

  March 2014

  Totally in the right to insist upon following the color scheme. I'd avoid the situation for now though, because it sounds like by next week she may be in love with yet another dress!

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• leelabear member

  

  March 2014

  She should be happy with your request. Most bridesmaids have no choice in color, fabric, style, length, etc. Then on top of it, they have to agree on the same dress for the MOH and the other maids. Some bride (probably not most?) require certain hair style, shoes, and jewlery.

  I do not think you are out of line at all.

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• daria24 member

  

  March 2014

  I was in the exact same position. I asked my sister to get a teal or green dress (seriously, any shade of green). She texted me a photo of the pink dress she bought. I decided just to let it go, I really didn't care that much. I know she had a difficult time finding something (we spent a weekend shopping at various malls) because she is very tall, and finding a short length dress that doesn't leave her hoo ha hanging out is a challenge. She looks perfectly lovely in the photos and not out of place at all, since my color scheme wasn't really a strong theme.

  
  

  You are well within your right to insist on the color scheme. Only you can decide if you want to take up that fight.

  

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• indianaalum member

  

  March 2014

  no, you are not out of line.

  
  

  
  

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• pumpkinsandturkeys member

  

  March 2014

  You can absolutely press the colour scheme issue. She has a very wide range to work within, and she chose to go outside of that. You get to choose the colours, and she gets to be respectful of that.

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• phira member

  

  March 2014

  You're not out of line at all, and it sounds like she's just going to fall in love with another dress down the line anyways ... and then another, etc. But I also think it's up to you if this is a hill you want to die on.

  

  now with ~* INCREASED SASSINESS *~
  
  

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• kgd7357 member

  

  March 2014

  BHDLN has a ton of really pretty dresses in your color scheme. She should totally check it out!

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  March 2014

  Thanks for the great advice ladies. I'm going to give her some time to decide if this is really the dress she wants, and if she's insistent, I'm just going to let it go. The blue isn't so far off from green that it will look silly.

  
  

  I do feel better knowing that if she changes her mind again and wants a dress that's even farther away from the colour scheme, I can push back and ask her to reconsider.

  
  

  Thanks again!

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