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Intimate wedding - still register?

JennyColadaJennyColada Awesometown, CA member
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Fi and I are planning and intimate wedding of immediate family only (<10 people). I am declining all showers and parties (obviously), but we are planning on sending wedding announcements.

While I obviously don't expect any gifts (and would honestly prefer none), should we register anyway?

I know that receiving a wedding announcement isn't a call for "send me a gift!", but am thinking that some family members may want to. I will probably pull the "oh how thoughtful! Well there isn't anything we need and are just saving up for ...", but I'm wondering if this may frustrate some people? I don't want to go through the hassle of registering and having it be unneeded, but I don't want to not and then end up with random nick-nacks from family. :/

Re: Intimate wedding - still register?

  • I would do a small one that people could just look up online/ask you about if they wanted to. You may still get random knick knacks but at least you'll know it wasn't for lack of registering. I always like having the registry option as a guest.
  • JennyColadaJennyColada Awesometown, CA member
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    Aray82 said:

    I would do a small one that people could just look up online/ask you about if they wanted to. You may still get random knick knacks but at least you'll know it wasn't for lack of registering. I always like having the registry option as a guest.

    We're having <10 guests though (just my parents, his parents, and his sister+Fi's BiL). I imagine, if anything, they'll give us cash (as they are apt to do for Christmas and such).

    But I have NO clue how our extended families will respond (like if they'd send a check, a gift, or just a card). :/
  • chibiyuichibiyui The Boring Part of MD member
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    I don't think I'd do a registry for under 10 people.
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  • I wouldn't, especially if you'd prefer not to receive gifts. If people really want to give you something, they'll send a check or pick something they think you'll like.
  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot Atlanta member
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    I wouldn't unless people started asking about it.  
  •    I'm only having 17-20 people and I did a small registry at Macy's to get the Star Rewards and the completion discount. I am not having any showers and since my wedding is a destination I don't expect gifts from my guests. It is tradition in my extended family to send a small gift even if not invited to a small wedding. We like to Shop and give gifts! However, it is not expected at all. 

       So I mostly registered for the discounts. If anyone looks me up just to side-eye the fact I have a registry for a small wedding, well, so be it. Just because we have a registry doesn't mean they have to get us anything and it's mere existence isn't hurting anyone or breaking any etiquette rules. 

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