Has anyone else found it extremely difficult to part ways with their maiden name? I feel like I'm having an identity crisis. All of my life I have been known as one last name and all of a sudden I'm supposed to just tack another one on to the end of mine and go by that instead? Nope. Sorry. I have no problem spending the rest of my life with you, but you signed up to spend your life with ME and part of ME is my last name. Under that name I have grown up and become a strong, independent woman. It's not even like I should be super proud to have my last name either since a lot of relatives have criminal records or bad reputations. Regardless, my name is where I came from. I feel like if I change my name I will be giving myself up and will just be "Mr. John Doe's wife." I'm my own person, not an accessory. I was always the girl that my teammates and friends called by my last name. Kind of hard to do that now. My husband does not understand my feelings. This is probably because men do not have to change their names and if it doesn't affect them, then they don't get it. Besides, why do women have to change their names? Times are a-changin. Screw you hubs, YOU change YOUR name. Of course, this is ridiculous to feel this way but I still do. Just wondering if anyone out there is having similar problems...