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Got an invitation today...SECOND UPDATE

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Re: Got an invitation today...SECOND UPDATE

  • Also, I know a lot of women who do not wear bare legs past a certain age.....For example I could not picture my grandmother, or even FMIL wearing something knee-length. I find that very peculiar. Some women are not comfortable in dresses either, I guess they can't wear a skirt and top instead?!
  • Not only is the sundress thing absolutely ridiculous, but my FI wouldn't be caught dead in khakis and a polo shirt. He is greasy mechanic, not Tiger Woods. When he dresses up for a wedding, it's a black or white button down with black dress pants. 

                                                                     

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  • phira said:
    Also, I ALSO got a wedding invitation to Mr and Mrs Hisfirst Hislast. A year ago. 
    We also got one like this... from people who know that I'm going to keep my last name (and their wedding is about 3 months before ours)... we had a WTF moment when FI asked them whether I was invited and why they didn't write my name on the envelope because the answer was that it had saved them time to write it like this. I was not impressed... 
  • wow, can't wait to hear the details of this afterwards on how it went. .

    I could see if the couple the OP wedding is invited put on their website, that we're having the wedding on sand (or another type of surface) so women may want to consider wearing flats or wedges for ease of comfort when walking on the sand. But again, a website with that suggestion is much more apprioriate.

  • Or even just mentioning sandy surface people can figure it out. This brides just neurotic
  • There is no way I would follow her dress code.  I have a floor length bright dress you can borrow!  Or you know, you could stick with your wedding gown.
  • Oh HELL no. I'm barely 5 feet tall so I am NOT wearing flats to a wedding. I also do not do wedges. Stilettos all the way for me, or at least 4 inch heels for me. And FI would not want to wear khaki's with a polo in those colors. That's just freaking absurd. 



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  • pinkcow13 said:
    Oh HELL no. I'm barely 5 feet tall so I am NOT wearing flats to a wedding. I also do not do wedges. Stilettos all the way for me, or at least 4 inch heels for me. And FI would not want to wear khaki's with a polo in those colors. That's just freaking absurd. 

    How do you do 4 inch heels on a beach/ in the sand? (Genuine question not trying to be rude)
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  • There is this awesome feature. It's called black and white photos. If you do happen to take a ton of pictures with your guests and want them to look uniform, just make them black and white. But every single picture I have printed in my house is of my husband and I.
  • ...I just... I don't know whether to laugh or cry... 
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  • I just don't even understand why brides ask their guests to dress in certain colors.  I mean, yeah, they want pictures where everyone looks matchy-matchy, I guess, but I never saw the appeal.  Do they spent a lot of time posing for pictures with all the guests?

    I only have a couple pictures of the whole room where you can see all the guests, and I think it would look absurd if they were all dressed similar.  It would creep me out a little bit.

    Exactly what I was thinking!  I understand having the wedding party coordinated, but it would look so strange to see all the guests in the same colors, too.

    Oh, but I guess she has a vision.
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  • UPDATE: (posted at beginning as well)
    We also are registered with honeyfund.com. In planning our wedding we were surprised to see how much a honeymoon costs. So we’re offering a plan for guests to contribute to the cost of our honeymoon instead of purchasing a physical item. It’s a pretty cool idea. Please click on the Honeyfund image to the right to access that registry. (I clicked the link) "for your convenience there is a credit card option! but we would much prefer if you just send us a check to our home." How could I have missed that before?!
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  • Do not comply with the dress code. That is outrageous and ridiculous. This woman would be so pissed if I were invited because I tend to wear black to weddings since most of the clothes in my closet are black, tan or some kind of beige color.
  • I would want to decline this hot mess train wreck, BUT...I kind of want you to go and tell us all about it.
    Oh, I'll be going alright. And I may be a little old fashioned, but I am going to give a gift. I just don't feel comfortable gifting money (not "donating") to people my own age. Down the line, when we're better off financially (hopefully) we will probably gift money to the younger generation. I will be sure however to update after the wedding!
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  • Pants and a metal chicken. Done.
  • Alright, so here's what they would like me to wear "Ladies: we request that you wear a cute knee-length sundress, preferably in a cool color(blue, green, purple) and flats or wedges. No sun hats please. Men: we request that you wear a nice pair of khakis and a polo shirt, preferably in a cool color(blue, green, purple)" Excuse me, but this is an outdoor afternoon wedding in the summer, I will wear my sun hat if I want to, and I'm not six, I know cool vs warm colors thank you very much. The only thing this wedding has going for it right now is the fact it's in the city we live in, so we don't have to drive far or get a hotel.
    Amen.  And I don't give a shit what your wedding color scheme is, if I am not in the bridal party and I am not in a centerpiece, then I will wear whatever fucking colors I care to.

    Lurkers- Brides, STOP trying to control and micromanage what your guests wear to your wedding!  It doesn't freaking matter what colors they wear to your wedding- no, not even if they wear white- nor if they are dressed formally enough.  Get over yourselves and just enjoy their company FFS.

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    I know it's not all about the pictures, BUT I think it would make for a BEAUTIFUL photo if all the women are in big sunhats!

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  • UPDATE: (posted at beginning as well)
    We also are registered with honeyfund.com. In planning our wedding we were surprised to see how much a honeymoon costs. So we’re offering a plan for guests to contribute to the cost of our honeymoon instead of purchasing a physical item. It’s a pretty cool idea. Please click on the Honeyfund image to the right to access that registry. (I clicked the link) "for your convenience there is a credit card option! but we would much prefer if you just send us a check to our home." How could I have missed that before?!
    Omg. Seriously. They didn't know how much a honeymoon was going to cost? Then don't go on one right away and save your freaking money!
  • Lolo8383 said:
    Please please please wear khakis and a polo and let your FH wear the sundress. Please. I'll pay you money to see the pics.
    SO MUCH THIS.

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  • SO MUCH THIS.
    I'm in for $10. Oh heck........make it $20.
  • Oh, my. Wow. Just wow.... the audacity of some people. I had one girl ask me if her hubby could wear jeans and I said "of course!" Honestly, people could come in their sweats for all I care. All that matters to me is what we are wearing and even then, if I were to trip on my dress and rip it while walking down the aisle (it could happen. I'm a clutz.... just broke my tailbone yesterday. Haha) it wouldn't be a big deal to me as long as I get to marry my best friend.

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