One of my BMs recently (in the past month) started dating a guy that I used to manage at my old company. I could not stand him, he is very disrespectful and thinks he is the best thing that ever walked the planet. Also, none of my other friends who have met him can stand him either. So she sent me a text yesterday saying "I was just gonna let you know I plan on bringing him to the wedding if you could please update my RSVP to +1". I responded, saying, we have to review final headcount before I can add anybody else. Then she replied back saying "I thought the invitation said April 1st and figured it wouldnt be a problem since I'm a bridesmaid..but ya let me know asap".
I really don't want him to come, as it will just be awkward! Should I be honest with her? I know she can get a little snappy, so I don't really want to cause any drama. Plus, I am happy that she found somebody and I am glad she is happy. I just think it's too soon for him to come to the wedding. Thoughts?