So as you all know, I am the MOH for a friend's wedding. It's been a wacky and stressful ride, to say the least. We came to blows after her wedding talk consumed every single econversation, at all hours of the day and night. I took everyone's advice and had a serious come-to-Jesus meeting with her about being overwhelmed. I have not engaged in wedding talk except for on our Wednesday meetings. Things have settled down quite a bit. We now have weekly wedding Wednesdays where we meet for coffee and discuss nothing but, flowers, colors, hair pieces, etc. So....a good change of pace.
A few months back she changed her wedding date and went from three months before my wedding to two weeks before which will make things a touch hectic since that week is moving week and I will be in the middle of moving to another state and preparing preparing for summer finals. After talking to the ladies here, I decided to not back out and FI and I will make a day trip home for the wedding. While it will be a touch nutty, I am glad the ladies here helped me realize this is really important to her we can squeeze a day trip down and will make it work. (Sudden surprises don't always help with rational decision making (lol) and I appreciate everyone who offered some prespective.)
Well.....yesterday she told me she probably wouldn't come to my wedding (which is four months away). She will have gotten back from her honeymoon a week prior and will probably still be really worn out. It's dumb, I know, but it really stung. I am probably being sensitive, but for some reason it hurt my feelings a lot more than I expected. It felt like she said "Hey, I'll be home and be available but, I'll be too tired to take a day to attend your wedding. You've been there every step of the way for the last year and even though you did all you could to make this special, I don't care. I also don't care that you also took time to make a seven hour one way drive to attend my wedding during your moving week. But even though my wedding will be over, I'm going to be too busy relaxing after the honeymoon."
I know I'm being sensitive, and silly, and taking something to heart that I shouldn't, but it just made me really sad.....that is all. It's like she wants me for her wedding but because she won't be the bride anymore she can't be bothered to attend. Idk kind of a poo feeling. Maybe I'm reading that wrong but it's really how it came across..... Anyway, thanks for listening...my mini pitty party is over.
* Well, ladies.....It's over.
My friend has been really upset the last month bc there is no work for her FI and he hasn't worked in almost two weeks. She kept saying she was really upset that her FI might be cut from work bc there isn't enough work for him and he's being told not to come in....My dad works with her FI and without even thinking I called my dad to ask if everything was alright and how his workload had been. My dad has been complaining about work lately so I figured something was going on and he hadn't told me the details because he didn't want me to worry. I called and said "hey so and so said work is really slow and they've been cutting hours at your job. Are you alright? If something is, don't worry about the wedding, if that's why you haven't said anything. We set aside money to do it and we have no problem taking care of it" ( My dad has offered to pay for reception dinner since FI and I were paying for everything) My dad said he would call me back in a minute and hung up...Ok weird. Ten minutes my dad called me back and said. Work is going great. We are actually in overtime status right now. It's been tough bc bride friend's FI hasn't come to work in almost two weeks. He keeps calling in sick." my response..."Oh"
We got off the phone and I decided this was not good and not my business and I would not be telling my friend. I texted her and said I was busy with work but would catch up with her the next day....Later that night she texts me asking why I had my dad checking up on her FI and that he was really pissed off. I explained that since my dad works with him and he had been stressed lately too, I wanted to know if he was ok or had lost hours as well.
Move forward a day and she tells me that her FI is furious and she doesn't want me in the wedding, if there even will still be a wedding. She said that she told me her worries in confidence (I had not clue that it was and something that deals with my family, I am going to ask about.) She said her FI has called off the wedding and they are over.......This happened so fast, my head is spinning. I am apparently the devil now.