Dear Prudence,
In the heat of an argument with my wife I often detach myself from my emotions and try to look at what is happening objectively. This inevitably irritates her because she thinks I am both acting morally superior and not really being objective because too often I side with myself. But if I can objectively pick apart and present both sides of my wife’s and my arguments, and it turns out I’m right, shouldn’t this help? If not, what is a better way of ending our arguments and stopping future ones?