dress color for a guest

skyhigh27 · March 2014

A few weeks ago, I purchased a dress for my cousins wedding, which is Saturday afternoon/evening, flying out tomorrow after work. In the store it looked like a muted coral color, very orange, she saw it and approved of it, said it wouldn't upstage her (her own words). I was just packing and took it out of the garment bag and in the sunlight the dress is a blush/champagne color! It was a return with no tag or color information, website definitely says antique blush. If someone showed up at my wedding wearing it, I wouldn't have a problem but that kind of stuff wouldn't bother me so my opinion doesn't matter. Do I find another dress in the next 24-hours or say eft-it and wear it anyway?

HisGirlFriday13 · March 2014

Normally, brides don't get to dictate guests' attire.

People cannot upstage the bride unless they show up in another wedding dress.

That dress looks pink to me. I think you're fine.

QueerFemme · March 2014

I would not wear that to someone's wedding.

APDSS22 · March 2014

Considering how close the wedding is, I would just add a shrug/scarf/cardigan. Accessorize it with non-white colors to make it more pink/coral.

gothic_fairy60 · March 2014

I think it looks pink and I would wear it to someones wedding. It is very similar to the color my mother is wearing to my wedding.

hellohkb · March 2014

I agree with PPs- It looks pink to me. You might want to accessorize with other colors, too.

grumbledore · March 2014

QueerFemme said:

I would not wear that to someone's wedding.

Really? It's a pink dress. I think it's fine and wouldn't even glance twice.

edandy · March 2014

I think you should find out if shes wearing a very stark white or what. Some wedding dresses are close to that shade, and if she's wearing it you should probably save that dress for something else. If she is wearing a very white or cream dress you will be totally fine. You could also ask her and see if she even cares.

ElcaB · March 2014

QueerFemme said:

I would not wear that to someone's wedding.

Me, either. Generally I stay away from hues of white, ivory, and blush as a guest. To me, those are colors reserved for the bride, WP, or MOB/MOG. (Not that anyone would see you wearing this and think, "She's wearing blush; she must be the MOB!")

Chipmunk415 · March 2014

FWIW my dress was an antique white and we had a guest show up in bright, arctic white. She's a sweet lady, but sometimes a bit spacey. I can't see your dress, but I'm assuming something that looks orangey-coral indoors and blush outdoors should be fine, just accessorize with non white ish colors

emmaaa · March 2014

I wouldn't side-eye it if were accesorized right.

Where did you get that? I love it!

debbeau · March 2014

The dress looks pink to me. I agree with PP. Accessorize with a little color. The dress is beautiful. It would be a shame not to wear it.

skyhigh27 · March 2014

eg72 said: I wouldn't side-eye it if were accesorized right. Where did you get that? I love it! I got it at BCBG along with a statement necklace and a wrist cuff. I've seen photos of her dress and it's bright white and her girls are wearing an iris color. I figure I can always do a really bold eye makeup or something that isn't very bridal. The only reason I got this dress is because she said the one I originally purchased made me look thinner than she is, so knowing her she'll have something to say even though she was there when I bought it.

And by the way, if she could dress all of the guests, she would. She's one of those brides. I'd wear sweatpants if knew she wouldn't make my life a living hell from this point forward.

Inkdancer · March 2014

I think it's gorgeous! I'd definitely go for a bold necklace and makeup to play up the pink.

QueerFemme · March 2014

grumbledore said:

QueerFemme said:

I would not wear that to someone's wedding.

Really? It's a pink dress. I think it's fine and wouldn't even glance twice.

Yeah. It's pink, but VERY light, and with so many wedding gowns being blush or champagne... I wouldn't. Combine that with the fact that it's strapless..... there is no way I'd wear that to a wedding.

HisGirlFriday13 · March 2014

I figure the mullet hemline negated the strapless part, actually. To me, in addition to it being solidly pink, it's kind of a funky dress, and not what I would picture as a wedding dress.

If someone does wear that as a wedding dress, fine obviously, but it doesn't scream 'OMG WEDDING!' to me.

And certainly with the proliferation of non-traditional wedding dresses there's a greater chance that a guest will unwittingly wear a colour similar to the bride or a style similar to the bride or even the same colour as the bride if the bride doesn't wear white.

A safe rule is 'don't wear white to a wedding.' If you as the bride aren't going to wear white -- you're going to go with something non-traditional or edgy or funky -- you can't expect your guests to know that.

A friend of mine got married in September and his now-wife wore a very dramatic black wedding dress. They had an after-6 p.m., very formal (not quite black tie, but close) wedding, and she was PISSED that other women wore black dresses. Uhm....it's reasonable for them to think that black is an OK colour for an almost-black-tie wedding. It's not reasonable for you to be angry about that.

I agree that accessorizing will help tone down any 'bridal' elements some people might see in the dress, but overall, it still doesn't look like a wedding/BM/MOB/MOG dress to me. I can't get past the mullet part.

QueerFemme · March 2014

I don't disagree with your points HGF. I just overall, steer clear of anything that can be seen as overly "flashy" for people's weddings. I'm not saying that this dress is crazy flashy, I think it's gorgeous. But, given how light the shade of pink is, and add in the strapless factor, I just wouldn't.

HisGirlFriday13 · March 2014

QF, our monitors must be rendering it differently, then, because it's appears on my screen as a dusky coral, not a light pink.

I agree with you about flashy dresses, though, in general.

I'm also still really hung up on the mullet aspect. If the dress were all one length, either long or short, I think it would be flashier than the long-short thing going on now.

QueerFemme · March 2014

HisGirlFriday13 said:

QF, our monitors must be rendering it differently, then, because it's appears on my screen as a dusky coral, not a light pink.

I agree with you about flashy dresses, though, in general.

I'm also still really hung up on the mullet aspect. If the dress were all one length, either long or short, I think it would be flashier than the long-short thing going on now.

Hmmm. maybe it is just my monitor (although, it looked the same on my phone last night). to me, it looks like a light dusty pink.

skyhigh27 · March 2014

HisGirlFriday13 said: I can't get past the mullet part.

I normally hate the high-low look and tried it on as a last resort. I'm very pale and petite, something about it looked right and made me love it. The black version on the other hand, hideous and I couldn't get out of it fast enough.

If this was anyone else's wedding, I would have purchased a new dress this morning out of respect for the bride (and complete panic).

HisGirlFriday13 · March 2014

@skyhigh27, if you love it, then that's all that matters. It would drive me crazy all night with the high-low thing, but if you love and feel pretty in it, then that's the only part that matters!

doeydo · March 2014

On my screen it looks gold/champagne colour, so I don't see any issue with wearing this to someone's wedding.

kitsunegari89 · March 2014

A: The bride does not dictate guest attire.

B: That is a pink dress. It is not bridal. My mom is wearing pink to my wedding and she looks adorbz. She is a tiny cupcake lady. Also, the hi-lo hem is very modern and fun. I don't see it as a bridal gown in any capacity.

If you're wanting to play it extra safe, wear a colorful necklace or scarf or something, but personally I think you're golden.

skyhigh27 · March 2014

You ladies are cracking me up with the hem. I want to get it altered after the wedding. I am envisioning myself tripping on it at some point in the evening and/or hiding it in the back of my closet and never wearing it again once this trend has (thankfully) vanished. The sales girl suggested I wear cowboy boots, if there's anything more that I dislike than this trend it's wearing it with cowboy boots.

If there were no pink or orange tones to it, I would definitely look like a corpse.

AddieCake · March 2014

Yeah, we all know I don't care who wears what to a wedding, but I personally would NOT be wearing that. It really does look to me very much like a bridesmaid dress. Gorgeous dress, but just not what I would wear as a guest. It looks very light pink to me as well.

huskypuppy14 · March 2014

I wouldn't wear that dress to a wedding. It looks light pink or champagne to me, add in the length and strapless and I would bet some women could choose that as their wedding dress. I think the uneven hem is the only thing that saves it not being bridal.

yogablossom · March 2014

First of all--what a gorgeous dress!! Where did you buy it???? Secondly, I don't think I'd mind all too much if you wore that to my wedding. It's blush, not white or ivory or off-white etc. Yes it's long in back, but there's no rule saying that guests aren't allowed to wear form dresses/gowns to a formal event, such as a wedding. I think you'll be fine.

HisGirlFriday13 · March 2014

True story: I once wore a dress to a wedding that was virtually identical to the BM dresses.

The bride had had them pick JCrew dresses, but just regular party ones, not the wedding line. I wore a JCrew dress that I already owned.

It was the same colour as the BM dress, with similar neckline and hem. It was a slightly different fabric and that was the only difference.

Vivandiere8 · March 2014

If you came to my wedding in that dress I wouldn't think twice about it. Very pretty. But to tell you the truth I wouldn't have thought anything of someone wearing white to my wedding before coming around these forums and learning about what an issue people had with it. What if you went to a fabric store and bout a sash in a darker version of the dress to replace or go over the current one?

edandy · March 2014

HisGirlFriday13 said:

I figure the mullet hemline negated the strapless part, actually. To me, in addition to it being solidly pink, it's kind of a funky dress, and not what I would picture as a wedding dress.

If someone does wear that as a wedding dress, fine obviously, but it doesn't scream 'OMG WEDDING!' to me.

And certainly with the proliferation of non-traditional wedding dresses there's a greater chance that a guest will unwittingly wear a colour similar to the bride or a style similar to the bride or even the same colour as the bride if the bride doesn't wear white.

A safe rule is 'don't wear white to a wedding.' If you as the bride aren't going to wear white -- you're going to go with something non-traditional or edgy or funky -- you can't expect your guests to know that.

A friend of mine got married in September and his now-wife wore a very dramatic black wedding dress. They had an after-6 p.m., very formal (not quite black tie, but close) wedding, and she was PISSED that other women wore black dresses. Uhm....it's reasonable for them to think that black is an OK colour for an almost-black-tie wedding. It's not reasonable for you to be angry about that.

I agree that accessorizing will help tone down any 'bridal' elements some people might see in the dress, but overall, it still doesn't look like a wedding/BM/MOB/MOG dress to me. I can't get past the mullet part.

Haha wow. I hope she at least told everyone she was wearing black?

skyhigh27 · March 2014

lindseyfera said:

First of all--what a gorgeous dress!! Where did you buy it???? Secondly, I don't think I'd mind all too much if you wore that to my wedding. It's blush, not white or ivory or off-white etc. Yes it's long in back, but there's no rule saying that guests aren't allowed to wear form dresses/gowns to a formal event, such as a wedding. I think you'll be fine.

I purchased it at BCBG. Her wedding was very formal, and her bridesmaids actually changed into black gowns for the reception so I'm simply glad I wasn't in a black dress. It photographed beautifully and got a ton of compliments, she made a few snide remarks about the color but you can't always please a dragon.

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