I have asked both of our sisters to be in the bridal party. I have two nieces ages 10 and 7 and a nephew age 9. My fiance has two nieces ages 16 and 13. We gave it a lot of thought and decided that having all of them is too many and unnecessary and if we can't have all we would have none. We already have 5 bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen so to add another 5 seemed excessive. My future SIL has mentioned to my fiance that her girls are disappointed and assumed they would be in the bridal party. Neither my fiance or I have ever given them any indication that they would be in the bridal party at all. I'm really surprised that something was said about it because she has always said "it's your wedding, do what's right for the two of you." So what's the point in even mentioning the disappointment? I feel bad about it but I'm not going to change my mind. I just hate that it's awkward now. I've scoured the boards before posting and see that many people feel that handing out programs or performing small tasks are a waste of time and possibly offensive. Do you think that would be the case for the teenagers too? I could possibly have one do a reading (but really wanted to reserve that for some of our adult family/friends) and maybe my sister's kids (younger ones) could bring up the gifts. The teenagers could hand out the bubbles and programs. Are these things appropriate? Any other ideas?