How long till the reception?

smalfrie19 · March 2014

motleygirl18 said:

You knew what exactly? That I am trolling? Sorry to say that I'm not. I just wanted an answer (thank you Niccirf) to my question. Thank you for attempting to answer it and give your further input. I really do appreciate it, this has just been a very stressful week and your initial response made me very flustered so I do apologize for my previous responses.

They knew you would dirty delete because you didn't get your way.

chibiyui · March 2014

Op, from what I've been able to piece together, it sounds like you just want a small wedding. Have a small wedding, skip the bigger at home reception. You don't seem to want to deal with a lot of people, so why put yourself through that stress?

AddieCake · March 2014

No, that you would DD.

CMGragain · March 2014

Apology accepted. I second Addie's suggestion that you have a margarita and relax.

(Cliff notes for latecomers: OP DD''d, and then thought better and restored her original post.)

motleygirl18 · March 2014

A giant margarita is going to be had! Thanks for all the suggestions

TheGrimReaper · March 2014

motleygirl18 said:

You were extremely rude in your oirginal post. I didn't include all of the details because I hadn't anticipated an old bitty replying the way you did. Guess I should have known better since people like you don't have anything better to do than troll around and make people feel like shit for having a different idea of a wedding reception than what you think is acceptable.

Late to the party, but seriously? CMGr gives excellent advice and you're acting like a brat.

Oops, I'm the asshole that failed to read the rest of the thread before replying.

SmileDamnit · March 2014

Atta girl! Once sufficently relaxed post-margarita (or 3), spend some time lurking around the threads. These ladies have a wealth of knowledge & experience to share, if you're truly willing to listen (note that listening may mean toughening up your skin a bit because you might not always like what people have to say). Trust me, you AND your guests will have a much better wedding experience if you do.

STARMOON44 · March 2014

The good news is since this isn't your wedding reception you can have it any time you'd like!

cruffino · March 2014

You're cool. keep hanging out here, the ladies have great advice. Have an awesome celebration later. I don't know if etiquette has a say, but I would try to do it within 6 months, just my opinion though.

sofakingmad · March 2014

AroundTheBlock said:

In fact, some sort of "At Home" reception has always been one of the first social obligations of a new wife, as it signals to her guests that she still accepts them as friends despite her own change in status. It can be hard to keep your unmarried friends when your responsibilities change, so putting some effort into those friendships and generously proffering hospitality is admirable in you. True etiquette is never about reducing the opportunities for building community and for offering hospitality.

I think you are stuck in a different decade.

grumbledore · March 2014

motleygirl18 said:

We have always wanted a smaller, more private ceremony (neither of us like large crowds staring at us) which is why we chose to only have immediate family and our close friends. Has anyone had their wedding and reception at different times?

The reception is part of the wedding, so just invite the people you want to attend your ceremony and those are the people who will attend the reception, on the same day. What's the point of inviting people to just the ceremony? It looks like a gift grab, and frankly it's most of the cost so I really see no point. If you don't want people at your ceremony, then there's no need to "receive" them afterwards.

grumbledore · March 2014

motleygirl18 said:

You were extremely rude in your oirginal post. I didn't include all of the details because I hadn't anticipated an old bitty replying the way you did. Guess I should have known better since people like you don't have anything better to do than troll around and make people feel like shit for having a different idea of a wedding reception than what you think is acceptable.

grumbledore · March 2014

DragonBlood13 said:

AroundTheBlock said:

In fact, some sort of "At Home" reception has always been one of the first social obligations of a new wife, as it signals to her guests that she still accepts them as friends despite her own change in status. It can be hard to keep your unmarried friends when your responsibilities change, so putting some effort into those friendships and generously proffering hospitality is admirable in you. True etiquette is never about reducing the opportunities for building community and for offering hospitality.

I think you are stuck in a different decade.

Ya think? lol

gaiku2 · March 2014

oh my goodness.. really people? Motleygirl18 I get where you're coming from. My FH and I are eloping. My father passed away 2 years ago and the idea of a traditional wedding without him would make me too sad. Also like you My FH and I don't like the idea of being center of attention..It just makes sense.

I'm not a very traditionally kind of girl either, but here's what we're doing.

With that said he and I will have a reception after we return. I think I remember hearing you can have a reception within 1 year of your wedding. 2 other ladies I work with are also doing a small wedding and having their reception later.

I think if it works for you.. do it. If the folks you invite to your reception have a problem with it..I mean screw 'em.. they can either get over it, or not. It's not about them.. it's about you and your FH sharing your joy with them

ScoutF · March 2014

oh my goodness.. really people? Motleygirl18 I get where you're coming from. My FH and I are eloping. My father passed away 2 years ago and the idea of a traditional wedding without him would make me too sad. Also like you My FH and I don't like the idea of being center of attention..It just makes sense.

I'm not a very traditionally kind of girl either, but here's what we're doing.

With that said he and I will have a reception after we return. I think I remember hearing you can have a reception within 1 year of your wedding. 2 other ladies I work with are also doing a small wedding and having their reception later.

I think if it works for you.. do it. If the folks you invite to your reception have a problem with it..I mean screw 'em.. they can either get over it, or not. It's not about them.. it's about you and your FH sharing your joy with them

STUCK IN THE BOX: You do realize you will both still be center of attention at the celebration? And no one here is against having a party later as long as it's done the right way.

gaiku2 · March 2014

yes Former Cajun obviously we do realize this and it's something we're willing to deal with in order to share a moment with those we love. We're just keeping the ceremony to just us. The reception iwll be at a later date.. and it will be awesome.

thanks for asking

crunchymamaof2 · March 2014

But you won't be sharing the moment with your loved ones. That moment is when you get married. I have no issue with having a party later on but your reasoning doesn't make much sense. People have up to a year after the wedding to send a gift. Maybe that's what you're thinking of

AllOnOneDay · March 2014

Reception at a later date implies a highly formal celebration.

Just have a party that's a normal party when you want. We're hosting a really casual, fun weekend the summer after so we can have the stupid type fun we like. I'm not dressing up. Done.

kgd7357 · March 2014

We are having a party about a month after our wedding at my parents house in my home town. Just kegs and catering trays. We leave on our honeymoon the next day, so it's kinda a honeymoon send off. I think if you get more than a month or two out from your actual wedding for this kind of party, it starts to get weird. I'd go with 1 week to 2 months, maybe 3 max.

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