I am posting here because I wasn't sure which forum to air my issue, and I know you ladies will give it to me straight...
This past
weekend was my bachelorette party, my MOH and sister-in-law planned a bad ass
night at a strip club; it was AWESOME! I got wasted, got a stage dance, lost my
phone, got tons of bruises – the works lol. A great night! <?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />
My MOH
was a little pissed at me because I told her that night to please don’t call
the other girls names (she was telling our designated driver “Let’s get these fucking fools home. They’re
getting on my nerves.” IDK, it just didn’t sit well with me, no one threw
up or had to be carried or whatever.) We aired our grievances where she thought
I was being ungrateful after she did so much to make sure I had a great night
and stuff. I aired mine in which I said I was completely grateful and always
will be, I just didn’t want her brazen attitude being bestowed upon me or other
people that also contributed to everything. I didn’t want to be treated like an
inconvenience or a child by her; plain and simple. I don’t believe that negates
my gratefulness towards her. At all. So we apologized and moved on.
She told
me Sunday she thinks she spent somewhere around $300 at the strip club. I think
we all blew a bunch of money; I wasn’t sure how to respond. This morning out of
the blue, she tells me again that she “looked at her account, she spent over
$300 at the strip club.” Nothing more. Soooo I said “Do you need money?” and
she hasn’t responded.
I guess I
need advice on how to handle this situation, I don’t know if she is trying to
guilt me into giving her some money to cover all the expenses. I will if it
calls for it, but I’m struggling with a thin line between trying to feel
grateful towards her and annoyance that I’m being guilt-tripped that she did so
much for my bach party. I honestly don’t need this right now; I am getting
married in 10 days, and I’m super stressed but always trying to be respectful
of everyone’s feelings, so I really need advice on how to deal with this. No
one asked her to spend that much and I certainly wasn’t the only one drinking,
spewing dollar bills everywhere.
Ever the
respectful bride, I never EVER expected a bachelorette party; I wouldn’t have
been bothered either way if one was thrown for me. And as with tradition, I
have asked nothing of her during my planning process for the wedding. I paid for her entire attire, hand-made her
bouquet, arranging a ride for her to get to my home (she lives and hour away).
I know she has a stressful home life so I just wanted her to enjoy the day, so
I’m feeling a bit jipped right now because I feel like I am being guilt-tripped.
Ah – my first
world problem.