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lazy/ not helpful Bridesmaids

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Re: lazy/ not helpful Bridesmaids

  • jernibrownejernibrowne member
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    Bittersweet,

    #1 I'm so sorry your Bridesmaids are jerks. You seem to be very accommodating to them. You let them know approximately how much they should expect to spend and they had the opportunity to back. You are now even subsidizing some of the costs for them. 

    #2 They are probably hating because you are getting married and they are not. My suggestion get new friends who will take joy and excitement in your happiness. It is impolite of them to be sour face and despondent. You do not need people like that in your life. Those who are so dissatisfied with themselves they cant be happy for you and are finding reasons to complain and ruin your special moment.

    #3 I apologize for the jerks on this message board who thinks such behavior is okay from friends/families who you asked to be part of your special. I will pray for them and that they increase their expectations.
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  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    jernibrowne said:
    Bittersweet,

    #1 I'm so sorry your Bridesmaids are jerks. You seem to be very accommodating to them. You let them know approximately how much they should expect to spend and they had the opportunity to back. You are now even subsidizing some of the costs for them. 

    #2 They are probably hating because you are getting married and they are not. My suggestion get new friends who will take joy and excitement in your happiness. It is impolite of them to be sour face and despondent. You do not need people like that in your life. Those who are so dissatisfied with themselves they cant be happy for you and are finding reasons to complain and ruin your special moment.

    #3 I apologize for the jerks on this message board who thinks such behavior is okay from friends/families who you asked to be part of your special. I will pray for them and that they increase their expectations.
    OK, I am confused.  Is this sarcasm, or is it for real? 
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  • Blue_BirdBlue_Bird member
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    Methinks we're being groomed for an April Fool's Spectacular!
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  • Rebl90Rebl90 member
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    Soooo it's ok to call your closest and dearest friends "lazy/unhelpful"? Because that's what you did in the title, and I would drop out of your wedding in a heartbeat if I were them.
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  • lallyanalallyana member
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    @ jalyndani, I totally agree with you.  I think our thoughts on bridesmaids are fairly similar.  Your maids are first and foremost your friends.  And you would expect your friends to show interest in your life, whatever stage you are in, and you would certainly be entitled to feel disappointment if they did not.  That's what friends do!  I have sat on a friends sofa and watched her model 15 different looks to choose an outfit for a big, hot date and listened as she re-hashed it 100 times afterwards.  I have gone shopping for maternity outfits with friends who were having a baby, taken a heartbroken friend out to binge on sugary desserts and champagne... and yes, gone to wedding dress fittings, made invitations and served appies at the reception.  Why?  Because they were my friends and they needed me and/or wanted me there to share their joy.  It shouldn't matter if it is a wedding or not- we are friends because we support each other in our moments of need, and listen to each other.  I don't think it's wrong to have an expectation that your friends will remain interested in your life and will be supportive if you need them just because you happen to be getting married.  
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