When I said 'check with VIP's' I literally meant YOU and FI check with them, eg- send an email/or call each and every MUST HAVE and "say hey, FI and I are looking at a few dates, do these work for you?" and then you do your best to work it out. 99% of the time it works out and everyone can be there. Sometimes, even when you do that things pop up- emergencies, due dates, deployments and completely unchangeable work schedules. At the end of the day, your wedding is just that- ONE day. Just because someone couldn't make it to your wedding doesn't mean they don't love you or support your marriage.
We will hopefully be able to save up and find a date that works for everyone. But taking a break on planning for a while. Will revisit again in the future .
Yeah, I'm gonna stop posting about my boss and her wedding now. Although I'm pretty sure it's clear that she's never been anywhere near an etiquette board.
Yea. Puh-lease. The "tradional bride" thread was good for awhile but it has stopped. I need something to get me through the last 2 hours of work.
Hmmmmm? What is this?
@prettygirllost it started on Wedding party. OP wanted some special jobs for a female friend. It then took a weird turn about PPDs and not wanting the government involved in her wedding. Then she went to complain about us on Chit Chat.
OKAY few days reading up on this board and have a highlight of an idea for next years summer wedding- Yes, I know (now ) nobody is attacking me, simply stating etiquette regardless of feelings involved.
Now, I would prefer a backyard wedding. I believe truly , guests and family would enjoy a backyard wedding as well. All guests invited, will be invited to the ceremony and reception, all guests will enjoy food, drink, music , and a seat/table. What else am I possibly forgetting/over looking?
PS. I will definitely in stone, if need be, in writing, CONFIRM with all VIP guests if the date chosen works for them before committing to invitations this time. (hehe my bad that first time.)
OKAY few days reading up on this board and have a highlight of an idea for next years summer wedding- Yes, I know (now ) nobody is attacking me, simply stating etiquette regardless of feelings involved.
Now, I would prefer a backyard wedding. I believe truly , guests and family would enjoy a backyard wedding as well. All guests invited, will be invited to the ceremony and reception, all guests will enjoy food, drink, music , and a seat/table. What else am I possibly forgetting/over looking?
PS. I will definitely in stone, if need be, in writing, CONFIRM with all VIP guests if the date chosen works for them before committing to invitations this time. (hehe my bad that first time.)
You don't need it it writing... But yes, never assume that a date will work with any of your VIPs without asking.
The timing of dinner is a little bit dependent on geography. In my area - Indiana - 7:30 would be fine, especially with a note saying "cocktail reception to follow" or something that indicates there is no meal.
Yeah, FI and I usually eat dinner at 7 or 8 (and we're not serving dinner at our wedding until 8_, but I think 7 is really on the edge of acceptable to not serve a meal - as long as you're very clear about it. It's not that big of a deal for me to have a sub for dinner at 6PM or something.
OKAY few days reading up on this board and have a highlight of an idea for next years summer wedding- Yes, I know (now ) nobody is attacking me, simply stating etiquette regardless of feelings involved.
Now, I would prefer a backyard wedding. I believe truly , guests and family would enjoy a backyard wedding as well. All guests invited, will be invited to the ceremony and reception, all guests will enjoy food, drink, music , and a seat/table. What else am I possibly forgetting/over looking?
PS. I will definitely in stone, if need be, in writing, CONFIRM with all VIP guests if the date chosen works for them before committing to invitations this time. (hehe my bad that first time.)
Don't forget to invite all 'social unites' together (eg you can't invite cousin john without his GF jane) even if you've never met the other person, even if they've only been dating for a few weeks, and even if you don't really like her/think they are that serious.
Don't put registry information on the invites, ask for cash or have a honeyfund. Don't mention gifts on the invites in any way shape or form.
Don't have a pot luck wedding or ask guest to BYOB.
Do remember that only the ceremony is about you and the groom- the reception is for your guests, to thank them for the love and support they have shown you in the past, and celebrate the future with them.
Good luck and stick around, these ladies here a wonderful and we love new people!
A backyard wedding is more than fine! I am sure your guests will love it.
The only point being made by the other posters, was whatever wedding you have, host your guests properly.
Lots of other good advice given.
There are lots of ways to properly host a wedding on a budget. There are some good ideas so far- the meal could be simple: chips to snack on, hamburgers and salads for dinner, cake for dessert. Stock up on items that freeze well before hand. Keep the decor simple. No one really cares if you had elaborate home made centerpieces, but they do care if they had a chair to sit on at a table with enough food and drink.
As per VIPs, it is always wise to check with your nearest and dearest first, "hey [family member], we are thinking of July 19th for our wedding, do you have any issues with that date?". Remember, you *can* choose any date you want, without asking anyone, but be prepared that some people may be unable to make it. Thus, best to ask your nearest and dearest, but if someone can't come, don't take it personally.
Re: Fiance's brother claims "cant make it" to wedding
Live fast, die young. Bad Girls do it well. Suki Zuki.
http://forums.theknot.com/discussion/1015898/traditional-brides#latest
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
@prettygirllost it started on Wedding party. OP wanted some special jobs for a female friend. It then took a weird turn about PPDs and not wanting the government involved in her wedding. Then she went to complain about us on Chit Chat.
ETA: you beat me! Pure crazy, right?
UPDATE
OKAY few days reading up on this board and have a highlight of an idea for next years summer wedding- Yes, I know (now ) nobody is attacking me, simply stating etiquette regardless of feelings involved.
Now, I would prefer a backyard wedding. I believe truly , guests and family would enjoy a backyard wedding as well. All guests invited, will be invited to the ceremony and reception, all guests will enjoy food, drink, music , and a seat/table. What else am I possibly forgetting/over looking?
PS. I will definitely in stone, if need be, in writing, CONFIRM with all VIP guests if the date chosen works for them before committing to invitations this time. (hehe my bad that first time.)