I've seen it thrown around here that one should never plan her own bachelorette party. I'm wondering though if this is only for situations in which you are asking your party guests to contribute a lot of money or do something else extravagent? I had been expecting to plan my own because my bridesmaids are scattered across the country and I will be the only one living in and familiar with the city where I want my party (my job and other circumstances will prevent me from going somewhere else for the party). The bridesmaids have offered to help plan, but frankly I think it's *more* inconsiderate to ask them to do a ton of research and planning from afar when I know the city better and it's easier for me to make arrangements. I also don't want anyone, even the bridesmaids, to feel pressured to fly across the country for me; they all are busy people too and I'm not planning on having some massive massive party, just a fun night out plus brunch or something. I guess what I'm asking is whether it would be OK in this situation to just plan things myself, and maybe just have a bridesmaid who I know can attend help spread the word? Thanks.