My fiancé and I have many opinions on what we want said and not said during the ceremony. We don't want to repeat any vows, I will not say "I do" to anything asking if I promise to be obedient, and I don't want to be introduced as "Mr. and Mrs. His Name". I'm still undecided on what I'll do about the name issue. My officiant is provided by my venue, and I probably won't meet him before the day of the ceremony. All my requests go through the coordinator who owns the venue. Should I type out my requests of what I would like done and list out what I want to make sure to avoid? The coordinator took notes on what I told her, but I'm still thinking that making my own notes might be best.