Gift Dilemma

ohmrs2014 · April 2014

Hey ladies. So here is a bit of a backstory. When FI and I moved into our new apartment, my dad surprised us with a new TV for the living room. It fits perfectly in our entertainment center and is perfect for the size of the living room. We moved FIs old TV into our bedroom and the second bedroom is a work in progress that will be just a spare room until we decide to start a family.

Fast forward to the night of our wedding, Friday. We get home yesterday and start unwrapping our gifts so we can start thank you cards. One of the gifts is from his boss and its a Sony 4K TV Media Player. We were very confused, but we had company beginning to come over so we put everything away. Husband texted his boss and said that he was very confused because apparently there was a second box that he wanted to give us before we left the hotel, but was too big to bring into the venue and I have a two door car, and it wouldn't fit in my car. Well after going back and forth, his boss came out and said that the head of the company gave his boss the ok to purchase a gift from the company themselves. They purchased us a Sony 55' 4K TV which is going to be dropped off tomorrow.

The TV won't fit in our entertainment center and his boss jokingly said that we will just have to buy a new entertainment center. I didn't find it very funny. I don't see why they would get us a TV (he works for a media company, so apparently they can write it off as a business write-off). His boss new that my father had surprised us with a TV that we absolutely love, though there were discussions that when we purchased a house a 4K TV would be awesome to have,

I'm actually very stressed and husband and I both feel as though it puts us in an awkward situation with everyone. My dad is going to get highly offended if we replace the TV with the one his company gifted us. I know my dad and he's going to feel as though what he got us apparently wasn't good enough. And husband feels if he says something, its going to make the work environment very awkward. It won't fit in our bedroom because then we would have to buy new furniture to even hold it because our current dresser barely fits the old 36'. And again, our second bedroom isn't an option.

Does anyone have any suggestions?

freebread03 · April 2014

Thank your husband's company profusely for the very generous gift, and then either a) return it for store credit (make sure it's store credit so they don't know you returned it), or b) sell it on craigslist. Unless his employer comes over to your house often, they shouldn't ever find out what happened to the gift, and as long as you thank them and tell them how much you love it (because you do love it, its a pretty awesome gift, even if you can't keep it).

doeydo · April 2014

I would thank the boss profusely as they are large and generous gifts. Make sure to send thank you notes. Also, I would shift the TVs around (ie. the 'biggest and best' TV in the living room, next in the master bedroom, and the last in the spare bedroom when it is finished). If you cannot mount the largest TV on the wall or something, then I would get a new entertainment center that can hold it and sell the old one on Kijiji or something. Oh, and how long ago did your dad get you the TV?

ohmrs2014 · April 2014

We just moved into the new apartment less than 2 months ago and he bought us the new tv moving weekend so the new tv is less than 2 months old. I think it also bothers me that his immediate boss knew all of this so it boggles my mind that he would go and purchase us a new one. All of our furniture is brand new so buying a new entertainment center is out of the question. Everything in the apartment furniture wise is just as old as the TV my father gifted us, less than 2 months old. And honestly I feel if we moved the TVs around if we could, my father would have hurt feelings.

RebeccaB88 · April 2014

Do you have a friend or family member that might have a place for you to store it until you have a house to put it in?

ohmrs2014 · April 2014

@RebeccaB88 that's what we are thinking because he does want a 4K TV (we are technology nuts so this is something we would have bought ourselves when we purchased a house). The thing is we won't be purchasing a house until at least for another 5-6 years because the down payments are crazy LOL. I feel like a solution will come to us soon.

And everyone at his job, including the parent companies are going to be receiving a thank you card.

grumbledore · April 2014

50ShadesofMe said:

Hey ladies. So here is a bit of a backstory. When FI and I moved into our new apartment, my dad surprised us with a new TV for the living room. It fits perfectly in our entertainment center and is perfect for the size of the living room. We moved FIs old TV into our bedroom and the second bedroom is a work in progress that will be just a spare room until we decide to start a family.

Fast forward to the night of our wedding, Friday. We get home yesterday and start unwrapping our gifts so we can start thank you cards. One of the gifts is from his boss and its a Sony 4K TV Media Player. We were very confused, but we had company beginning to come over so we put everything away. Husband texted his boss and said that he was very confused because apparently there was a second box that he wanted to give us before we left the hotel, but was too big to bring into the venue and I have a two door car, and it wouldn't fit in my car. Well after going back and forth, his boss came out and said that the head of the company gave his boss the ok to purchase a gift from the company themselves. They purchased us a Sony 55' 4K TV which is going to be dropped off tomorrow.

The TV won't fit in our entertainment center and his boss jokingly said that we will just have to buy a new entertainment center. I didn't find it very funny. I don't see why they would get us a TV (he works for a media company, so apparently they can write it off as a business write-off). His boss new that my father had surprised us with a TV that we absolutely love, though there were discussions that when we purchased a house a 4K TV would be awesome to have,

I'm actually very stressed and husband and I both feel as though it puts us in an awkward situation with everyone. My dad is going to get highly offended if we replace the TV with the one his company gifted us. I know my dad and he's going to feel as though what he got us apparently wasn't good enough. And husband feels if he says something, its going to make the work environment very awkward. It won't fit in our bedroom because then we would have to buy new furniture to even hold it because our current dresser barely fits the old 36'. And again, our second bedroom isn't an option.

Does anyone have any suggestions?

Rec room? Den? Finished basement? Put it in a closet in case your other one breaks?

There's no dilemma here. A gift was given. Say thank you and do whatever you want with it.

grumbledore · April 2014

50ShadesofMe said:

We just moved into the new apartment less than 2 months ago and he bought us the new tv moving weekend so the new tv is less than 2 months old. I think it also bothers me that his immediate boss knew all of this so it boggles my mind that he would go and purchase us a new one. All of our furniture is brand new so buying a new entertainment center is out of the question. Everything in the apartment furniture wise is just as old as the TV my father gifted us, less than 2 months old. And honestly I feel if we moved the TVs around if we could, my father would have hurt feelings.

Why on earth would your father care where in the house you used the tv he gave you? That's a little nuts.

lc07 · April 2014

Can you mount it on the wall in the spare bedroom?

HisGirlFriday13 · April 2014

Write a thank you note. Sell the TV, regift the TV, return the TV, whatever.

There is no dilemma. You got a gift so you write a thank-you note. Whether you like or could use the gift is entirely immaterial.

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