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MegTrashy
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Annoyed and FH doesn't agree.
So I am a bitch first and foremost. FH says I've become a bridezilla and I don't feel that I really have. Let me tell you why he says this. He has a friend who has a GF and she's a bit of a nut job. FH and I have another set of friends tying the knot 6 weeks after us. Crazy GF has asked the other bride and my self to address their invites as Mr. & Mrs. This is DRIVING ME CRAZY!!!!! they're not engaged. I feel like its total and utter disrespect to bride #2 and I. Like she just HAS to get in on the wedding thing. I wanted to be a C U Next Tuesday and address it to her by her actual name but FH says just do it how she asks. Bride #2 is as annoyed as me but is still going to do what Nut bag wants. Im sorry I just wanted to vent and have someone else legitimize my feelings about this whole situation.
P.S. FH told his friend we were a maid down so he didn't need him in the wedding anymore and Nut Bag offered to be in my wedding!!!!!
soooo annoying!
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Re: Annoyed and FH doesn't agree.
I'm sure some of the other ladies can speak to proper etiquette on addressing invites, but my feeling is you address it accurately. If someone is not a married couple, you do not address it as such.
My concern is that you (or FI rather) are inviting people into your wedding party and then telling them they are no longer needed because numbers are not even. A big 'what the fuck' in my book. Way more than someone being crazy about how they want you to address their invites/offer to be in your WP.
Edited because I cannot type on mobile. Like ever.
You all win. Or lose. Depending on how you look at things.
It's rude to invite someone to be in your wedding party, and then dis-invite them. Dis-inviting them because they are a flake, likely to be late, etc are not good enough reasons to tell them they are no longer wanted. If they have started putting black magic curses on you or drowning puppies you can kick them out. But them being annoying, stupid, drunk, or what have you is not a good enough reason. My fiancé himself has a groomsman he probably shouldn't have asked, and has since gone MIA, but we aren't kicking him out. If he shows he shows, if not a groomsman will escort two maids.
Unfortunately some F*ups don't get to be "fixed" or shouldn't be if you want to avoid being rude. I do sympathies with you. It sounds like your fiancé shouldn't have asked this particular friend. But can you imagine being asked to serve a roll that is suppose to be given as an honor... And then being told "we don't need you any more" as if the roll he was being asked to fill is one of a prop? And since his girl offered to fill in the roll of the supposed missing bridesmaid you can tell this particular friend actually wanted to be a groomsman. It's just not a nice thing to do no matter how it came about. The friend is an innocent party to your fiancés screw up and shouldn't be kicked out for it.
"t was HIS bad thats why I made him do it. He was drunk, and felt "guilty" and invited him out of pity. The guy is a FLAKE!!!!! He will be late to his own funeral and I blew my lid when I found out he invited him to be in the wedding when we AGREED he wasn't in it. We were never a maid short. FH F*cked up, So I made FH fix it. We only agreed on 3 each he stupidly invited the 4th cuz he's a moron drunk, like so many of us are. LOL"
It sounds like this wedding is a train wreck in the making. There is absolutely nothing "LOL" funny about anything you have posted. You don't seem to show any respect for peoples' feelings.
I think you are too irresponsible for marriage. You need to grow up and accept responsibility for your own actions.
1. Your FI invited someone to be in his wedding party while he was drunk.
2. You lied to people to cover this up.
3. Numbers are more important to you than people's feelings.
4. You are under the impression that everyone drinks excessively, and that this is socially acceptable. (It is not.)
5. You are encouraging your FI to lie to cover mistakes he made while drunk, instead of manning up and taking responsibility.
6. You think that being "a moron drunk" is an excuse for irresponsible behavior.
7. You judge other people's behavior, and call them disrespectful names. Very immature.
Sorry, not sorry... but Meg Trashy typing in LOLCAPS about how she made her fiance kick his friend out of the wedding party because they sides need to be even is total crap. Or it's real and hope for humanity is diminishing fast. One of the two.
Regardless of the fact that you think your fiance made a mistake in inviting said groomsman to be a member of your wedding party, forcing him to then lie to the guy and kick him out of the wedding party was extremely rude and yes, Bridezilla-like. I think you need to remember the golden rule here "Treat others as you would like to be treated."
First, If you are going to put something in all caps, at least spell it right.
And it doesnt matter if you had BM on hand to "fix" the situation. What your fi did was rude. There is no way around it. Your fi asked him to be a GM and then sobered up and kicked him out. 5 year olds have better manners on the playground than your fi.
I feel I should defend my self further. I regret I added this part because I didn't think I'd be crucified to this extent. First and foremost my name is because FI is in the music biz and I have been labeled as Mrs Trashy from the start. Second of all former groomsmen and nut job GF are Herion addicts. This is a recently new development ( less than a year) and the groomsmen disappears for days when he runs out of money for fixes. And say he does show, what am I do with a hot mess of an addict making a scene in my photos in front of
Our families? And before you jump down my throat about FI being friends with an addict we have all distanced ourselves from these two quite a lot. Yes I agree it was rude this is why I wanted to "fix" it. But at the end of the day FI didn't think he could trust said groomsmen enough to be in the wedding. This wasn't even the issue at hand it was the fact that nut job is nuts, and is insisting on the invite to be labeled as Mrs. I'm sorry that I've added that little tid bit. This has scared me away from any future posts. It's disgusting how you ladies instantly crucify someone. And it's probably disgusting that I shared that bit of info but I feel as if what we did wasn't rude considering the weight of the situation now at hand. I apologize my spelling is horrible it's one of my faults. And I'm mobile so spell check doesn't check on words in all caps. I'm so glad you ladies are quick to jump when down my throat that FI has a drinking problem when we were at a party. FI is having difficulty dealing with a long time friend being a HA and this is why he asked him then realized what he did. The guy disappeared on us for three days that's why FI insisted on asking him not to be apart or our big day. This is my last reply to this post. Say as you will about me ladies. But I will NOT be sending an apology note to MR. former groomsmen and Mrs. NUT bag. I'm madly in love with my FI we will be getting married 4 days after our 7th anniversary and I do realize what I said about him came off as really horrible. I was only quoting what he said about himself. I don't feel he's a moron he only did a moronic thing drunk. FI is a good person deep down and still feels like a heel about the whole situation. But what other choice did we have ladies?
Being "madly in love" with your FI will not make your marriage work. Honestly and a sense of responsibility will. Mature people treat everyone with respect and courtesy, not just people who meet their standards of acceptability.
The posts and am Answering questions. How big is that stick up your ass. So what maybe I'm not done posting it's my board!
@skrekspeare yes I'm completely sure. He's the biggest teddy bear in the world and I love being with him. It was an adjustment getting used to the name but ok over it now. In the grander scale of things he's my best friend my partner my biggest supporter and I am his #1 fan. I can't wait to be his Mrs. In all things.