So this year there are two weddings happening in my family, my cousins whom shall be name Y and mine. Unfortunately they have been named the wedding we must attend and the fun wedding. Now I did not start this trend and must admit I was unsettle at first. A little back ground to start my cousin Y is marrying a women that many in our family can not stand. She has made many snide comments about relationships and family dynamics. I will never claim to have a normal family but we support each other and do love one another. She has also told my cousin many times that him being close to his aunts is very unnatural, my mother who is also his god-mother and my aunt who is only a few years older than him(as there was a large age gap between my oldest aunt his mother and our youngest aunt).
The only thing my cousin knows about his own wedding is the time it starts and he was "allowed" to pick his groomsmen. His FI has done everything including picking the theme(prince and princess they are both in their 40's), picking location, and making sure my cousin got an annulment so they could get married Catholic but decided after the fact to get married Christian. Which I could careless if they had no religious ceremony but coming from a family that I saw this process rip my mother apart it stings a bit as my cousin had to approach my mother on advise for the process.
To what is pissing me off, my brother and family has declined to go the wedding as his daughter is not invited, he lives 3 hours away from where the wedding is being held and anyone how would watch my niece is invited to the wedding. Now Y's FI is calling my brother's other half telling her everyone in the family is very upset with her and told her that she is ruining HER vision for HER wedding.
Now no one is upset as we all understand how hard it would be for them to travel 3 hours, pay for gas, pay for a gift(honeyfund), and pay for a babysitter no one blames my brother or his family. The one everyone is mad at is cousin's FI for causing this drama and putting my brother in this position. My brother and his family is in my wedding as a groomsmen, flower girl and also bridesmaid so they also have costs there although we have helped them out as much as our budget allows and my brother's pride will allow.
Sorry this has just been eating me all day as I don't want them to stress and in my opinion they should have been prepared to have guest decline when we saw ADULT RECEPTION on the invite. Which in it self was a breech of etiquette in it's self along with their honeyfund.
Edit: As my brain is mush and can't type tonight.