Just when I thought that we had finally settled on a venue and a date, FI has informed me that he doesn't feel right about having the wedding on the day after his mother's birthday. He originally told me to call the venue and hold whatever date was available in our ideal date range, and said any Saturday in early May or late April was fine because none of his family's birthdays fell on a Saturday. Now that I've put a tentative hold on a date he doesn't want to do it on that date.
So now I'm stressing out about how to plan around all of our VIPs who have April or May birthdays. Birthdays aren't a big deal in my family so I don't really have any frame of reference for this. Is this something that should always be planned around, like is it inconsiderate to have the wedding on the day before or after someone's birthday?