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After Party Etiquette...

bethangel2332bethangel2332 member
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We are hosting an after party, but I'm unsure of current etiquette. Is it proper to only invite some people or must we invite everyone? For the most part this would be my family, wedding party and most of our out of town guests as they are staying at the location where the bon fire will be held.
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  • HisGirlFriday13HisGirlFriday13 member
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    bethangel2332 said:

    We are hosting an after party, but I'm unsure of current etiquette. Is it proper to only invite some people or must we invite everyone? For the most part this would be my family, wedding party and most of our out of town guests as they are staying at the location where the bon fire will be held.

    If it's a wedding-related event that comes immediately after the wedding, you should invite everyone who's invited to the wedding.

    If it's substantially after the wedding reception ends, you can just spread it by word of mouth that there will be a bonfire at X location and Y time and people are free to come if they want to.
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  • lc07lc07 member
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    It would be impolite to invite some of your wedding guests but not others if the after party immediately follows the reception. Only send actual invitations if you are hosting food and beverage at the after party. If it's a situation where everyone is on their own for food/bev you can spread by word of mouth that you will be at X spot after the reception if anyone feels like meeting up and staying out later.
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  • jessirayjessiray member
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    You need to invite everyone. Just FYI (since we're doing an after party right after our reception, which ends at 4), we invited 154 people total, so far we've had 135 reply,  and 15 we're still waiting on. Out of the 104 coming to our wedding, we have 77 coming to our afterparty. 
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  • bethangel2332bethangel2332 member
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    The break down for the day be as such 3 pm ceremony start time with and end time of about 3:45. Cocktail hour would start @ 4 to 5 as our reception site is about a 10 minute drive. Dinner would start after introductions and the party continues until 9. The bon fire wouldn't start until about 11:00 pm and continue until everyone is asleep. If this helps to clarify timelines for the day of the wedding.
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  • abbyj700abbyj700 member
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    We are having an after party as well and everyone is invited. It is at the bar we met at - and we're hosting some late night fried food and the bar tab up to so much. At this bar - I doubt we'll get to that much even if the whole wedding shows up. But we're not limiting who's invited.
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    bethangel2332 said:
    The break down for the day be as such 3 pm ceremony start time with and end time of about 3:45. Cocktail hour would start @ 4 to 5 as our reception site is about a 10 minute drive. Dinner would start after introductions and the party continues until 9. The bon fire wouldn't start until about 11:00 pm and continue until everyone is asleep. If this helps to clarify timelines for the day of the wedding.
    Why the gap between 9 and 11? I would probably be tired and just go home if the momentum stopped for two hours in between.
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  • bethangel2332bethangel2332 member
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    The gap is so that people can either go change into night clothes ans September in Maine can either be really nice like tanks and shorts or freezing. Sometimes a middle ground can be found but not often. 

    We have someone that will be at my mothers house setting up for the after party food, drinks, getting the fire going. At this point people will most likely just show up after the wedding lets out, but many people are hitching rides and I know most families will be bringing elderly guest home, if they haven't left already. So we want to give people time and not have anyone rush. 
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  • sarawifenowsarawifenow member
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    I will second @HisGirlFriday13, spread it by word of mouth.
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  • ifeelgoodifeelgreatifeelwonderfulifeelgoodifeelgreatifeelwonderful member
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    I have attended both hosted and un-hosted (we will be at X bar) after parties and it was always just by word of mouth. I think word of mouth is fine. It seems to end up being the close family and younger crowd that sticks around until the end of the reception anyway so I think it's unlikely everyone will stay and you might end up with just the crowd you are envisioning. 

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