My fiance and I are planning a destination wedding and paying for most of it on our own. ALL of our friends and family couldn't be more excited except his mother and sister who are both being a total pain in the arse.
FMIL kept telling him no one from his family was going to come because it is a destination wedding. Fast forward and her entire family is booked and excited and she still has not. Even still, she keeps making sideways passive aggressive negative comments to my fiance about the wedding.
FSIL is 21, but is incredibly immature for her age. She keeps freaking out about how is she going to get to the wedding, where is she going to stay, etc. and we have made it as easy as possible for her because she is very sheltered. I sent her very explicit dress ordering instructions today (I basically made it full-proof), link to order, color code, even found a promo code for her to get a discount on her bridesmaid dress and she wouldn't even have to go anywhere or even make a phone call. She sent me a ton of b*tchy texts, saying she was upset that she couldn't try her dress on, and why didn't I find a place for her to go to try on near her home (she lives in the midwest and we live on the east coast). She even went so far as to say we had to help her pay for the dress because it was expensive.(mind you, she has a great job, and doesn't spend money on anything, so I am not sure why she would need our help). Then she started bitching that we decided on long dresses, since it is on the beach, to which I replied, that I had planned on going short, but the reccomendation was to go long so the a gust of wind wouldn't end up sending the maids' skirts flying up and leaving them exposed during the ceremony.
She also doesn't seem to understand that when you order a bridesmaids dress, you can't just walk into a store and buy it off the rack, which I have tried to explain several times. I am fine with helping her, but I could not believe the negative and passive aggro nature of everything she sent me. We have always gotten along and it seemed so out of left field. I am incredibly frustrated as she is clearly being very self involved and not even considering the fact that we are paying for and planning an entire wedding, and that the day is not all about her. I was so angry earlier, I was thisclose to telling her that is she continued to act this way, she could wear what she wants and sit with the other guests (but I calmed down and did not, lol).
Sorry for the rant, but I needed to get it out somewhere that people would understand, thanks!