My wedding day is soon approaching (less than 4 months- August 9th), and it will be a destination wedding. We are getting married in Hawaii and a good portion of our guests will be travelling for our big day. Very exciting! We have always planned to get married in Hawaii (FI's family lives there and its beautiful... you can't really go wrong with this location!), and so after we became engaged (which will be one year ago in June) everyone who knew us expected it to be there. I have been doing very well with planning thus far; I have a great portion of our vendors already booked, decor already ordered, and everything seems to be coming together better than I expected. That is until...
About a month ago, my Matron of Honor/ Best Friend took me to dinner and explained that she likely will not be able to make it to the wedding. My initial reaction was to throw up on her. This was supposed to be my partner in crime, my drill sargent, my other half (aside from my FI, of course) to help me get through the entire day! Now, I completely understand the monetary concerns she has...she recently (3 months ago) had a beautiful baby boy, she and her husband recently purchased a new vehicle, and on top of that she just started back at work not too long ago. Finances are not too great, and a trip to Hawaii is not cheap. I know that-- believe me! Is it wrong of me to be really hurt over this though?? She didn't give me a definitive 'NO', but the way she brought it to my attention... my educated guess is that she won't be there. She told me she would still work on my bachelorette party and bridal party (which I haven't heard a peep about thus far), but honestly I would rather not have any parties and have her there on my big day. That sounds so selfish when I say it outloud. I feel so torn.
Do I just continue my planning as if she might come and then if she doesn't what then? Has this happened to anyone, and what did you do? How did things turn out???