My mom is in a wheel chair and on oxygen. She is not able to feed herself, let alone, light a unity candle but she has her heart set on being part of the ceremony. Are there any alternatives we could do to include her? My step-mom is able to do the unity candle in her place but I'm worried that mom will see that as a slight to her. I can't omit the unity candle because the mother of the groom would be crushed. I would appreciate any help you can give me.
Re: Disabled mother of the bride
ETA: this could go well or really badly, I think you'd have to make that call.
ETA below are some brides incorporating their disabled parents
I think FMIL is being really short sighted. I would skip the unity candle all together. I know my mom would be really hurt if Step-mom took her place to light the candle.
I agree that having her hold your flowers is a nice touch.