No appetizers for cocktail hour

KatWAG · April 2014

mariabfromaz1 said:

It's your wedding and however you decide to proceed will be GREAT! Personally, I think the popcorn bar is a really cute idea and I don't think you need any more for that for a short cocktail party. Enjoy your special day!!!

Gag. Just because its a wedding doesnt make it intrinsically great.

Maggie0829 · April 2014

KatWAG said:

mariabfromaz1 said:

It's your wedding and however you decide to proceed will be GREAT! Personally, I think the popcorn bar is a really cute idea and I don't think you need any more for that for a short cocktail party. Enjoy your special day!!!

Gag. Just because its a wedding doesnt make it intrinsically great.

Yup. I have been to some really crappy weddings. And the reason why they were crappy? Poor planning.

lyndausvi · April 2014

Who knew getting a few trays of cheese, crackers and veggies would be such a big deal? Those items can be cheap, simple and filling.

In no world should popcorn ONLY because considered okay for an alcoholic cocktail party. In addition to other items? Sure I love the idea. But the more people you have the more variety of foods you should have. And no, have both regular and carmel popcorn is not considered variety for these purposes.

CrazyCatLady3 · April 2014

banana468 said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

Sonietsjka said:

You’re having a popcorn bar and full dinner afterwards, so in my opinion it is not necessary to add appetisers, even if the cocktail hour is 60 minutes. Guests will survive going half an hour without food. I never really understand the very elaborate cocktail hours followed by a full dinner.

I personally would serve a savoury instead of a sweet snack during this time of day though, but of course that is my personal preference. If you and your FI are big on popcorn, go with popcorn.

However, if you’re planning on doing a two hour ceremony, you might want to consider serving a little more than popcorn as guests will probably be looking for something a little more substantial.

Um, no. If alcohol is available you need to serve something substantial with it (and popcorn is not substantial) unless you want a lot of drunk guests at your wedding. During a 30 minute cocktail hour I could down 2 glasses of wine and with no food in my belly except a handful of popcorn and I am buzzed.

You need to remember that if your ceremony is at, say 4pm, then your guests probably haven't eaten anything since lunch (noon) so not having anything but popcorn during the cocktail hour would make for some very hungry and irritated guests.
Besides that, guests who are diabetic, hyperglycemic, or hypoglycemic can get really ill if they don't eat properly or regularly. If I haven't eaten lunch since 12pm or 1pm and dinner isn't going to be served until 7pm or later, thats 6-7 hours you are expecting me to survive without food. . . Not 30mins. That long a time lapse and I'm going to get a nasty headache that can lead to a nastier migraine, on top of getting shakey. Popcorn alone won't cut it for me.

As long as dinner is served at a reasonable time, adults should be able to figure out when to eat as to not be starving to the point of having medical issues.
Of course they can figure out WHEN to eat. The issue is what if there isn't anything available TO eat?

I think she means that people with medical issues will plan ahead and have a healthy snack on their own at, say, 3:30, in case they don't get to eat until later at the wedding. It's not that hard to throw a granola bar in your purse. Granted, it's much better if there are more options at cocktail hour, but I doubt she will have guests going into hypoglycemic shock.

Jen4948 · April 2014

Tweetheart said:

Wow....thanks for the advice. I appreciate the input that has to do with my actual question. As far as what beverages we are offering and whether our location is appropriate, it's perfectly appropriate. I'm not going to justify why we are doing what we are doing nor did I go into details of what type of information we've given our guests or anything else...because it has ZERO bearing on the subject at hand.

Good luck with your weddings and have a great day.

Then don't expect us to be forthcoming.

banana468 · April 2014

CrazyCatLady3 said:

banana468 said:

Gerbertmcway said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

Maggie0829 said:

Sonietsjka said:

You’re having a
popcorn bar and full dinner afterwards, so in my opinion it is not necessary to
add appetisers, even if the cocktail hour is 60 minutes. Guests will survive
going half an hour without food. I never really understand the very elaborate
cocktail hours followed by a full dinner.

I personally would
serve a savoury instead of a sweet snack during this time of day though, but of
course that is my personal preference. If you and your FI are big on popcorn, go
with popcorn.

However, if you’re planning
on doing a two hour ceremony, you might want to consider serving a little more
than popcorn as guests will probably be looking for something a little more
substantial.

Um, no. If alcohol is available you need to serve something substantial with it (and popcorn is not substantial) unless you want a lot of drunk guests at your wedding. During a 30 minute cocktail hour I could down 2 glasses of wine and with no food in my belly except a handful of popcorn and I am buzzed.

You need to remember that if your ceremony is at, say 4pm, then your guests probably haven't eaten anything since lunch (noon) so not having anything but popcorn during the cocktail hour would make for some very hungry and irritated guests.
Besides that, guests who are diabetic, hyperglycemic, or hypoglycemic can get really ill if they don't eat properly or regularly.

If I haven't eaten lunch since 12pm or 1pm and dinner isn't going to be served until 7pm or later, thats 6-7 hours you are expecting me to survive without food. . . Not 30mins. That long a time lapse and I'm going to get a nasty headache that can lead to a nastier migraine, on top of getting shakey.

Popcorn alone won't cut it for me.

As long as dinner is served at a reasonable time, adults should be able to figure out when to eat as to not be starving to the point of having medical issues.

Of course they can figure out WHEN to eat. The issue is what if there isn't anything available TO eat?

I think she means that people with medical issues will plan ahead and have a healthy snack on their own at, say, 3:30, in case they don't get to eat until later at the wedding. It's not that hard to throw a granola bar in your purse. Granted, it's much better if there are more options at cocktail hour, but I doubt she will have guests going into hypoglycemic shock.

That's still a ridiculous idea. I never bring food for myself anywhere. My dad is a type II diabetic and he doesn't show up to events where he should be properly hosted with food either.

Jen4948 · April 2014

CrazyCatLady3 said:

banana468 said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

Sonietsjka said:

You’re having a popcorn bar and full dinner afterwards, so in my opinion it is not necessary to add appetisers, even if the cocktail hour is 60 minutes. Guests will survive going half an hour without food. I never really understand the very elaborate cocktail hours followed by a full dinner.

I personally would serve a savoury instead of a sweet snack during this time of day though, but of course that is my personal preference. If you and your FI are big on popcorn, go with popcorn.

However, if you’re planning on doing a two hour ceremony, you might want to consider serving a little more than popcorn as guests will probably be looking for something a little more substantial.

Um, no. If alcohol is available you need to serve something substantial with it (and popcorn is not substantial) unless you want a lot of drunk guests at your wedding. During a 30 minute cocktail hour I could down 2 glasses of wine and with no food in my belly except a handful of popcorn and I am buzzed.

You need to remember that if your ceremony is at, say 4pm, then your guests probably haven't eaten anything since lunch (noon) so not having anything but popcorn during the cocktail hour would make for some very hungry and irritated guests.
Besides that, guests who are diabetic, hyperglycemic, or hypoglycemic can get really ill if they don't eat properly or regularly. If I haven't eaten lunch since 12pm or 1pm and dinner isn't going to be served until 7pm or later, thats 6-7 hours you are expecting me to survive without food. . . Not 30mins. That long a time lapse and I'm going to get a nasty headache that can lead to a nastier migraine, on top of getting shakey. Popcorn alone won't cut it for me.

As long as dinner is served at a reasonable time, adults should be able to figure out when to eat as to not be starving to the point of having medical issues.
Of course they can figure out WHEN to eat. The issue is what if there isn't anything available TO eat?

I think she means that people with medical issues will plan ahead and have a healthy snack on their own at, say, 3:30, in case they don't get to eat until later at the wedding. It's not that hard to throw a granola bar in your purse. Granted, it's much better if there are more options at cocktail hour, but I doubt she will have guests going into hypoglycemic shock.

And how the heck would you know? And sorry, but no host should be planning that "it's not that hard to throw a granola bar in your purse." That's ridiculously insanely bad hosting.

Guests do not accept invitations to invitations to throw granola bars into their own purses (and that's even assuming that they're willing to eat granola bars). You want to invite someone to your wedding, then you damn well plan to feed them on your own dime and not plan for them to eat snacks out of their own purses.

ShesSoCold · April 2014

I have nothing to say except on the main Weddings Board page, this says, "No appetizers for cock" and that made me giggle.

SP29 · April 2014

I think the popcorn idea is neat, but I agree that throwing in a cheese and cracker tray, veggie tray and fruit tray would be wise. What if you have a guest who cannot eat popcorn (particularly since it's flavored with I assume sugar)? Those guests should have an option.

I would forgo the candy in favour of some trays of food for your cocktail hour. If you are serving cake, then additionally you do not need cupcakes as well- save some money there.

I get that you can't control what the bar sells, but I agree that it would be wise to have a sign stating what beverages are being hosted. I'd be pretty pissed if I ordered a glass of wine or a cocktail thinking it was hosted, then got charged $6. Why? Because then I'd look like the ass because I don't bring cash to weddings.

30 mins for photos is fine depending on the size of your WP and family, but since you said it is small, I think as long as you have a list of the photos you want to take, it'll work.

P.S. When I attend formal events, I bring a purse that matches the formality- i.e. a clutch. With my phone, lipstick, camera, keys and ID, there is no room for a granola bar!

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