So I got a save the date today...

Lizzieyounce · April 2014

wrigleyville · April 2014

We got an invitation that had "Rustic Chic" as the dress code. I wanted to throatpunch someone.

PrettyGirlLost · April 2014

TheFutureMrsRohlman22 said:

A burlap sack "dress" tied with twine should just about do it. Pair with cowboy boots and pigtails.

You forgot the "dressy" part.

You need lace and platform pumps, then.

PrettyGirlLost · April 2014

whitjoy said:

Received a save the date today with the couple's website so I checked it out. Attire: rustic/dressy casual How does one dress rustic casual?!

Oh yeah. . . Tim Gunn and Rachel Zoe are spinning like whirling dervishes in their graves as we speak.

What, you don't think they are dead? Oh believe you me, when they felt this disturbance in the Fashion Force they instantly died. Joan Rivers was already waiting to commiserate with them on the other side.

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whitjoy · April 2014

wrigleyville said:
We got an invitation that had "Rustic Chic" as the dress code. I wanted to throatpunch someone.

Rustic chic is WORSE!!

whitjoy · April 2014

shrekspeare said:
I think you should take pictures of everyone. I am excited to see what people wear.

I wish I could. I'm choosing to go to my cousins wedding the same day. On THAT save the date (magnet) they forgot to put the date!!!!! They wrote it in sharpie under their faces.

APDSS22 · April 2014

PrettyGirlLost said:

TheFutureMrsRohlman22 said:

A burlap sack "dress" tied with twine should just about do it. Pair with cowboy boots and pigtails.

You forgot the "dressy" part.

You need lace and platform pumps, then.

I figured it was rustic/dressy casual in an either/or scenario. Or that it would be more dressy casual to have a sack dress than a burlap romper. Lace platform pumps might do it though.

kitty8403 · April 2014

jalyndani said:

This is probably one of those brides that think they're the only one to come up with the idea of wearing cowboy boots with sundresses aka The Taylor Swift.

As someone who actually wears cowboy boots for their practical, intended purposes, this "outfit" infuriates me.

Agreed. I find it offensive, too.
Also, I live in the country and have absolutely NO idea what she thinks "rustic dressy" is. Maybe she's shooting for Carhartts?

kitty8403 · April 2014

[Deleted User] · April 2014

The fact weddings have become "rustic" aggravates me. For some of us that's just part of life not a damn theme.

insertusernamehere · April 2014

50ChevyEvey said:
The fact weddings have become "rustic" aggravates me. For some of us that's just part of life not a damn theme.

I live in the middle of nowhere and most of my friends want "rustic" as opposed to, say, glamorous or fancy.

It's sort of inevitable when you grow up with tractors and cows, and half of your available venues are old barns or warehouses.

thelastdreamer · April 2014

"It's going to be like rustic formal vintage gatsby chic"

[Deleted User] · April 2014

LauraMichael2015 said:

50ChevyEvey said:
The fact weddings have become "rustic" aggravates me. For some of us that's just part of life not a damn theme.
I live in the middle of nowhere and most of my friends want "rustic" as opposed to, say, glamorous or fancy.

It's sort of inevitable when you grow up with tractors and cows, and half of your available venues are old barns or warehouses.

Sorry, I posted before I was done. Damn tablet!

[Deleted User] · April 2014

Ditto, I live in Kansas. I just had this convo with the guy we're renting a barn from for our wedding. He has a ton of city people come out, looking for "rustic" because they think it's a super cute, trendy theme and get disgusted because he has livestock and an honest to god barn with uneven floors and dirt. He just laughs at them.

jalyndani · April 2014

50ChevyEvey said:

Ditto, I live in Kansas. I just had this convo with the guy we're renting a barn from for our wedding. He has a ton of city people come out, looking for "rustic" because they think it's a super cute, trendy theme and get disgusted because he has livestock and an honest to god barn with uneven floors and dirt. He just laughs at them.

I hate these types of people and sincerely hope they step in a very rustic pile of cow shit on their wedding day.

cmclaire · April 2014

Gah. What is it with attire guide notes for weddings? I'd never heard of the thing before TK, and that makes me want to go and hug all my married friends, right now.

grumbledore · April 2014

cmclaire said:

Gah. What is it with attire guide notes for weddings? I'd never heard of the thing before TK, and that makes me want to go and hug all my married friends, right now.

It's so gross. I've seen it included with one invitation (for the rudest wedding ever, for which I was in the WP.

jalyndani · April 2014

Y'all do realize that the Wedding Website templates from TK have an "Attire" section heading underneath "Guest Information", right? When I first started building our site, I had no idea it was an etiquette no-no to "dictate" attire to your guests. Granted, I don't give a shit what people are wearing to our wedding anyway and just used the section to mention that our ceremony site is outdoors on a June evening in Texas so everyone can dress as they deem comfortable. But had I not been a lurker on the boards, I would have thought it was the norm to provide attire guidelines.

Thank you, TK, for propagating poor information and bad etiquette to naive, unsuspecting, uninformed newly-engaged couples.

RebeccaB88 · April 2014

jalyndani said:

Y'all do realize that the Wedding Website templates from TK have an "Attire" section heading underneath "Guest Information", right? When I first started building our site, I had no idea it was an etiquette no-no to "dictate" attire to your guests. Granted, I don't give a shit what people are wearing to our wedding anyway and just used the section to mention that our ceremony site is outdoors on a June evening in Texas so everyone can dress as they deem comfortable. But had I not been a lurker on the boards, I would have thought it was the norm to provide attire guidelines.

Thank you, TK, for propagating poor information and bad etiquette to naive, unsuspecting, uninformed newly-engaged couples.

FWIW, I think you handled that section really well. I would definitely appreciate that kind of information. You didn't tell anyone what to wear, but let them know what kind of environment they'd be in, so they could determine what they'd be most comfortable in. With that info, I'd decide to wear something pretty but washable (sweat, yo) and cool, and flats instead of heels. If I chose something different and ended up uncomfortable, it would be no one's problem but mine.

Inkdancer · April 2014

RebeccaB88 said:

jalyndani said:

Y'all do realize that the Wedding Website templates from TK have an "Attire" section heading underneath "Guest Information", right? When I first started building our site, I had no idea it was an etiquette no-no to "dictate" attire to your guests. Granted, I don't give a shit what people are wearing to our wedding anyway and just used the section to mention that our ceremony site is outdoors on a June evening in Texas so everyone can dress as they deem comfortable. But had I not been a lurker on the boards, I would have thought it was the norm to provide attire guidelines.

Thank you, TK, for propagating poor information and bad etiquette to naive, unsuspecting, uninformed newly-engaged couples.

FWIW, I think you handled that section really well. I would definitely appreciate that kind of information. You didn't tell anyone what to wear, but let them know what kind of environment they'd be in, so they could determine what they'd be most comfortable in. With that info, I'd decide to wear something pretty but washable (sweat, yo) and cool, and flats instead of heels. If I chose something different and ended up uncomfortable, it would be no one's problem but mine.

Yeah, my attire section reads like this:

"September in North Carolina tends to be fickle in terms of weather. We will be indoors for the duration of the ceremony and reception, but the chapel has been left as historically accurate as possible (which means not much in the way of central air)."

insertusernamehere · April 2014

Inkdancer said:

RebeccaB88 said:

jalyndani said:

Y'all do realize that the Wedding Website templates from TK have an "Attire" section heading underneath "Guest Information", right? When I first started building our site, I had no idea it was an etiquette no-no to "dictate" attire to your guests. Granted, I don't give a shit what people are wearing to our wedding anyway and just used the section to mention that our ceremony site is outdoors on a June evening in Texas so everyone can dress as they deem comfortable. But had I not been a lurker on the boards, I would have thought it was the norm to provide attire guidelines.

Thank you, TK, for propagating poor information and bad etiquette to naive, unsuspecting, uninformed newly-engaged couples.

FWIW, I think you handled that section really well. I would definitely appreciate that kind of information. You didn't tell anyone what to wear, but let them know what kind of environment they'd be in, so they could determine what they'd be most comfortable in. With that info, I'd decide to wear something pretty but washable (sweat, yo) and cool, and flats instead of heels. If I chose something different and ended up uncomfortable, it would be no one's problem but mine.

Yeah, my attire section reads like this:

"September in North Carolina tends to be fickle in terms of weather. We will be indoors for the duration of the ceremony and reception, but the chapel has been left as historically accurate as possible (which means not much in the way of central air)."

Yup, I don't see a problem with including a section like this on your website, or offering up the information when people ask you. I'd never tell someone what to wear, but if your wedding is outdoors the whole night, telling your guests that so they can dress accordingly seems like the polite thing to do. Also, I would have no problems with people wearing jeans, and would tell people to err on the side of casual if they'd be more comfortable that way!

I'd also let people know if, say, the walkways are old cobblestones, so they can decide if they want to wear pencil-thin stiletto heels or not! See: people trying to walk in pencil heels at Faneuil Hall!

Kauris · April 2014

jalyndani said:

Y'all do realize that the Wedding Website templates from TK have an "Attire" section heading underneath "Guest Information", right? When I first started building our site, I had no idea it was an etiquette no-no to "dictate" attire to your guests. Granted, I don't give a shit what people are wearing to our wedding anyway and just used the section to mention that our ceremony site is outdoors on a June evening in Texas so everyone can dress as they deem comfortable. But had I not been a lurker on the boards, I would have thought it was the norm to provide attire guidelines.

Thank you, TK, for propagating poor information and bad etiquette to naive, unsuspecting, uninformed newly-engaged couples.

This.

I had something typed up in my "Attire" section about no shorts and no white, but fortunately, I started lurking and figured out it was not appropriate before I sent out my website to anyone. Now I have photos of the venue and a description of the ceremony (outdoor), cocktail hour (on the veranda) and reception (on the back lawn) to serve as informative indicators, but definitely no instructions.

Jen4948 · April 2014

Plaid button down shirt with denim skirt.

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