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Just received a wedding invite....

Backstory: My BF and I have been together for as long as my friend and his fiancee, we have been living together since September 2013, and my friend knows that we live together and has met my BF. I am also friends on Facebook with both the bride and the groom, so both of them can see who I am in a relationship with. When my friend messaged me the date on Facebook in February so that I could make travel plans, I asked him if BF was invited as well. He told me "Of course! You didn't even have to ask!". So, we went ahead with making travel arrangements (the wedding is on the other coast from where we live).

So, the invite came in the mail this weekend. It was only addressed to me. I know it is an etiquette faux pas, but was going to give them the benefit of the doubt, and hoped to see both of our names on the inside. Wrong again! Not only is his name not there, but nowhere on it does it even say that I have a plus one! In fact, the only place my name even shows up is on the envelope.

Needless to say, I am not a happy camper. Why is it so hard for people to research proper etiquette, especially when many guests are OOT?

Re: Just received a wedding invite....

  • @JCBride2014 I took your advice and did send the groom a message asking to clarify whether or not BF was invited. The bride and groom currently live in China (teaching English), so the groom prefers Facebook messages, and I am still waiting on a response.

    It's just so frustrating, and if BF is not invited after all, I think I will also end up declining. BF has family in the area of the wedding, so we will just spend more time with them in that case!
    good choice. I wouldn't want to go if my BF wasn't invited. 

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  • Yeah, that sucks.  I turned down an invitation from a person I am connected to on Facebook who could see that I am in a relationship but didn't invite my BF.  This is someone who I knew for years, whose parents are best friends with my parents, and who I babysat for as a kid, but according to him and his FI, they were only inviting couples who were married or engaged.

    Due to his rudeness, our friendship has never been the same since.  I no longer intend to invite him or his wife to my wedding.
  • @Jen4948 this is a very similar situation. I have been good friends with the groom for many years and my parents and his parents know each other. It's not like we just started dating last week, and the BF and I have been ring shopping too, so it is definitely a serious relationship. If my relationship isn't important enough to him, then his friendship isn't important enough for me.

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