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Do I invite some of my family or all of them? HELP!!

Shadiyah20Shadiyah20 member
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I'm new to the knot an this is my first time posting. But I've been wondering about what I am about to ask for a while.

I am adopted. I know who my biological mother is and talk to her every so often. I also have a relationship with a few of my half siblings as well. I went to England in 2008 and met my biological mothers 6 half siblings. Since then I've only kept in contact with 4 of them. I The others don't have Facebook or whatsapp. And I don't have their email or phone numbers. I got along with them just fine. Do I only invite those four to my wedding or should I invite all of them? I don't want to seem like I am singling out only those four relatives. What do you all suggest?
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Re: Do I invite some of my family or all of them? HELP!!

  • InkdancerInkdancer member
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    Invite the people who matter to you.

    I am inviting one of my half-sisters, but not the other two, because I don't have a relationship with either of them.

    If they had wanted to keep in contact, they would have. But they didn't, so that tells you something (which might just be that they're confused about having another sibling...it doesn't mean they hate you, just that they don't want a relationship right now). Don't feel guilty for cutting out those who aren't involved in  your life.
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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    Would you be happy if they all came? There's the answer to your question.
                       
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  • Shadiyah20Shadiyah20 member
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    @Mairepoppy I would be happy if they all came. Especially since they live in England And I know it would be expensive for them to come. I would be really touched.

    @Inkdancer it's not that I would feel guilty. It's just that I don't want one half of my aunts and uncles to resent the others because they didn't get invites (honestly I don't know if they would). I'll talk to my Aunt about it and see what she says.

    Thank you guys for your input greatly appreciated!!
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  • karamelkandykrunchkaramelkandykrunch member
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    Don't worry about etiquette.  Would your wedding be more fun if they all were there?  Would any kind of family drama happen if they were not invited?  Plus, if you invite them and they have to come internationally, they may not come and respectfully decline your invitation, but at least you extended the invitation to them which would avoid hurt feelings later on. 

    But if you don't feel close to them and it wouldn't be a big deal to everyone else, then don't invite them.  The people you want there and are closest to you should make the list first. 
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