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Lowell14Lowell14 member
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So, I'm in work and a co-worker came and sat down for a chat. He's getting married this Sunday. We're just chatting about the next few days he has planned when he tells me his friends gf was in an accident this past friday and they won't be able to attend...we can all see where this is going...I was asked if FI and I wanted to go!...I declined.

I know its not the first, nor will it be the last time this happens during weddings, but I'm a bit surprised this co-worker asked. He's had excellent wedding etiquette until now...


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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    Happened to me a few days ago--coworker's daughter is getting married soon and they invited around 200 people but less than 100 have rsvp'd yes. I've only met her daughter once so I declined ( and will still be inviting said coworker to my own wedding) but it was slightly awkward...
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  • JCbride2015JCbride2015 member
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    UGH how rude!  It's fine if you don't invite me in the first place because of space or budget or whatever, but so rude to just admit to B-listing.

    Does this happen just because people are so tight on their budget and numbers they can't stand the thought of even two plates going unused?  You're gonna have no-shows.  Oh well.
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  • wrigleyvillewrigleyville member
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    A co-worker did this a while back, and from her tone, I got the sense it was more that she didn't want that food and such to go to waste.

    Anyway, I didn't go, and I told her that she might have some people show up who'd either failed to RSVP or RSVP'd "no" and then changed their minds at the last minute.
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  • InkdancerInkdancer member
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    I think I am going to call my caterer and thank them for not making me commit to a minimum.
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  • mysticlmysticl member
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    So I'm guessing she sustained some injuries.  Significant enough that she is able to attend an event a week later.  It seems a little cold to me to then be giving their spots away to someone else.  
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  • larrygagalarrygaga member
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    That sounds even grossier than B-listing because they are trying to replace people who were hurt.
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  • mrscatymrscaty member
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    Eh. I know it's not proper etiquette but I'd probably go because I love weddings (and free food/booze). 
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  • hyechica81hyechica81 member
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    we have a 100 guest minimum it was the lowest around for saturday night weddings in my area. we expect to meet over but if we by chance 99 people rsvped ( invited 150) then we would just pay the extra 75 dollars. i dont believe in b listing at all its very rude you plan your budget, figure out how many people you can afford to host comfortably without going into panic mode, pick a venue that is big enough to hold all your guest not a venue where you are at your max and there is no room for any stragglers who may show up day of
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