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Vent: Groomsman quit, bigger problems ensued UPDATE in comments
Yesterday, one of the groomsmen was chatting with my fiance, and he clued FI in to the fact that another groomsman (they work together) had mentioned that he would not be attending the wedding. FI sent the questionable groomsman a generic text, to which the GM responded that he "had a lot on his plate and wouldn't be able to be there."
Grr. Fine, whatever. I won't go into much detail about how upset I am that he made a commitment 5 months ago that he is now unable to follow through on. Things happen. I'm more upset that FI feels disappointed and abandoned. Still, no big deal.
Except that his declining puts a huge financial strain on us. The tux rental shop offers a deal that if you rent 5 tuxes, you get the 6th rental free OR a huge credit toward the purchase of a tux. FI has very wide shoulders, and the only way a tux will really look good on him is if it is tailored, for which we'd have to purchase. FI has some credit at the store as well, so a purchase would cost us less than $100. With the GM dropping out, we lose the 5th rental, and the huge credit. Now we have to come out of pocket for his tux, a cost we definitely did not plan for. Even renting would cost more at this point.
There's not much we can do about it. I've talked to the rental shop to see if they will make any exceptions; they won't. I'm just frustrated. Thanks for letting me vent!
Grr. Fine, whatever. I won't go into much detail about how upset I am that he made a commitment 5 months ago that he is now unable to follow through on. Things happen. I'm more upset that FI feels disappointed and abandoned. Still, no big deal.
Except that his declining puts a huge financial strain on us. The tux rental shop offers a deal that if you rent 5 tuxes, you get the 6th rental free OR a huge credit toward the purchase of a tux. FI has very wide shoulders, and the only way a tux will really look good on him is if it is tailored, for which we'd have to purchase. FI has some credit at the store as well, so a purchase would cost us less than $100. With the GM dropping out, we lose the 5th rental, and the huge credit. Now we have to come out of pocket for his tux, a cost we definitely did not plan for. Even renting would cost more at this point.
There's not much we can do about it. I've talked to the rental shop to see if they will make any exceptions; they won't. I'm just frustrated. Thanks for letting me vent!
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Re: Vent: Groomsman quit, bigger problems ensued UPDATE in comments
FI's dad is already renting, so he's one of the 5 (now 4). We don't have grandparents, but I have asked both of my brothers.
Check on the rules though- we were told that we can't get the g/c until after all suits have been paid for. If that's the case, you might not get the g/c in time to buy FI's. Although hopefully they're more flexible with you!
Exactly that. I think part of how we found out the GM quit was because FI sent the guys a message to follow up about paying for the rentals. Men's Wearhouse told FI it would only take a week to order/tailor his tux, so we thought we'd have time. Alas, it's turning into a comedy of errors.
Better to find out now, though, I guess.
Is it too late for dad to return the suit he bought? If he knows you are in a pinch and have to rent another tux, he may be more willing to help you out. Even if you end up paying for it, it may still be nice to have him in a tux, like all the other guys.
So, I was wrong. My My dad did in fact BUY a tux, but there was some miscommunication. They have a deal that if you buy one tux, you get a second tux or suit for $100. His second purchase was a suit. I would NOT have insisted that he wear a tux, but I am relieved that he has chosen to.
I did ask him (because he indicated that he did not need nor want the second suit) if he could return the unnecessary suit and let me buy FI's tux for $100. He was very happy with the plan, and didn't want the money, so we are all settled. Best outcome possible. Dad is happy, FI is happy, and I am happy.
We received his RSVP card yesterday with the decline and a short note, just saying that he had too much going on. I feel pretty sure that had FI not texted him yesterday, that's the only notice we would have received. Disappointing.