All of our invitations have gone out and we are waiting on RSVPs at this time. We invited some of FH's coworkers, most of whom we do not expect to come (wedding is in our hometown rather than where we live now). There is one coworker who we thought might come during the early days of wedding planning, as he also has some ties to our hometown. He always acted really excited about the wedding - joking that he would pay FH $100 if he could be his best man. When we told him we already had a best man, he said he might settle for being the officiant. Mostly joking, but he did it often enough that we figured he would likely attend the wedding.
Unfortunately, back in January, he had a massive health emergency and has been in the hospital ever since. He has had multiple open heart surgeries, and was just moved to a rehab hospital for ongoing care/rehabilitation. His wife has a baby at home who is about a year old. We had decided not to send an invitation to them as we knew they could not come and we didn't want to add to the wife's many stresses. Now I am regretting our decision. I was thinking about sending the invitation with a little note indicating that we are thinking about them and hoping that all is well and sorry that we cannot share our day with them. But I don't want it to seem tacky, as it will be obvious that is a late invitation as the RSVP deadline is fast approaching. I was thinking about sending a card expressing our feelings instead of the actual invite --- better idea? We have already obviously sent a get well card and have been texting saying we are thinking about them, hoping he gets better, etc., but I want him to know that we're thinking about him since he wanted to be a part of our day.