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It won't be that weird...right?

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edited April 2014 in Attire & Accessories Forum
So my younger brothers are going to be our ushers. We weren't even sure we wanted ushers then I talked with them about what (if anything) they wanted to for the wedding (they're 19 and 22, they have more interesting things then my wedding going on, but I didn't want to exclude them either, I made it their call) and they asked if they could be ushers. So ushers they are and they are more excited about it then I think is normal but whatever. They're happy, I'm good with that. 

So recently we asked them what they wanted to wear. The guys we have standing up with us (3 between us) are going to wear black pants, red shirts and black jackets, ties are still being considered. We wanted to know if they wanted to dress similarly or if they wanted to do something different. And they asked if they could wear their kilts. So we thought about it for a nano-second and said sure. 

Now I'm thinking, they'll be the only ones in kilts. I don't want to tell them they can't, they love wearing their kilts and honestly I know it's not a big deal. But it won't look too weird if they're the only guys in kilts right? Most pictures I've seen of weddings have all the guys in the weddings in kilts or none of the guys. They do look very good in them as well. And hey, I want my brothers to look good at my wedding.

Re: It won't be that weird...right?

  • They may look a bit out of place, but if they're OK with it, and you and your FI are ok with it, I'd say it's all good.
  • Oh our family has a lot of Gaelic heritage, they already own the kilts they'll be wearing, they attend different Scottish/Kilt fests through out the year. I think they're wanting to wear their solid colored ones, because they mentioned they were black. They look kind of like this:
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    Not really concerned about not matching. If they wear one of the tartan ones, I know they have a nice red and black one that would look fine with everyone else, I think at least. More I'm just thinking it might be odd to see 6 guys (our dads and our guys standing with us) in pants and then the other two guys in kilts. 
  • I think it's fine. The ushers aren't truly "wedding party" anyway, and they won't be standing up with the groomsmen during the ceremony or in the primary wedding party pictures. Totally fine for the family pictures, especially since it's such a big part of their everyday life.

    I love how excited they are to help and to wear them; that's awesome!

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  • I think it would be great & honor your family heritage and make them stand out in their own way as the ushers. The only photos they will probably be in is family photos and not all the Bridal Party photos, so don't worry about the photos.
  • I would be more concerned about the red shirts on your groomsmen.  Why not standard white dress shirts and red ties?
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  • CMGragain said:
    I would be more concerned about the red shirts on your groomsmen.  Why not standard white dress shirts and red ties?
    Because we aren't standard. I'm wearing a red dress, and my FI is wearing a white suit with red shirt under (she's thinking a sleeveless silk/satin something). So we like the red shirts for the pop of color. And we aren't sure if we'll have them do ties or not yet. They'll be black ties most likely if they do them. 
  • Since you are being so unusual in your choice of men's attire, I wouldn't worry about the kilts.
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  • You ought to tell your brothers what concers you most about their dress. let them decide whether they will put on kilts or not.
  • Well that's a simple solution @vanessanini, they probably won't care and if the don't care I think I won't care either. I start over thinking things sometimes. And of course now FI's step-dad says he thinks he'll wear his. So 3 men will be in kilts! Though I think his is a tartan...if I remember it correctly. Been awhile since I've seen him in his kilt.

    I'm king of laughing right now @CMGragain that colored shirts on guys is so considered so unusual. I know I've seen it before, at other wedding. Oh sure, if it were a tux, white shirts. But at this point, wearing a tie at all is up in the air. 
  • I'd say it's fine. Especially with the whole wedding party (you included) wearing non-traditional attire, I think the kilts will fit right in.  And it sounds like you have kilt wearers of both sides of the family, so it's not anything weird or out of place for them, so I doubt anyone will think its too odd. I'm mentally picturing the full image of your whole wedding party, and I actually really like the idea of your brothers wearing their kilts... even more than if they wore pants. I think it will look awesome as a whole group.

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  • I texted the older one (the younger one doesn't function before 11) and said "I just want to double check you guys really want to do kilts, thinking you might stand out from the other guys" and he texted back "Of course we will! That's the point! We're the ushers we should look different! Remember mom and dad's wedding? And how everyone kept confusing the groomsmen and the ushers and even dad because all the guys were dressed the same? We're the USHERS, we don't want to get mixed up!" so they're ok with it and really I am too. 

    Because I do remember when my dad married his mom and yes people did keep mixing up ushers and groomsmen and a few people thought my dad was an usher because all the men wore the exact same outfits. The few people who mixed up my dad were people who only vaguely knew him, cousins on my step-mom's side. 

    I wonder if this counts as my bridal freak out. Can this be the one and only thing that makes me go bridal crazy? 
  • I think it sounds like an awesome idea — go for it!
  • Hello fellow red-wearing bride! :) Ditto PPs, you'll all look fab!
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