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Wedding Etiquette Forum
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etiquette faux pas that don't bother you
So we recently had a thread that discussed what etiquette issues would be a deal breaker for you attending or staying at a wedding. So I was curious what etiquette faux pas don't really bother you? For me, clearly ppd. Also, I understand why they are considered poor etiquette, dollar dance, I just have never been to a wedding without one so I guess I have been desensitized.
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Re: etiquette faux pas that don't bother you
Tip jars being set out don't bother me in that I won't judge the wedding couple for it. I will feel bad that I don't have cash to tip, but I usually give them the benefit of the doubt.
This doesn't mean I think they aren't rude, they are, I wouldn't have one...but they don't bother me.
I don't care about printed envelopes or labels either.
You'll never be subject to a cash bar, gap, potluck wedding, or b-list if you marry a Muppet Overlord.
Labels on envelopes
PPDs and cash bars case by case
Wearing a wedding dress again as long as no false pretenses. Zero fucks given.
To a point, I'll also overlook program people and guest book attendants- I grew up in an area where these are still seen as "honors," whether that's right or wrong. Some of our guests didn't understand why we didn't specifically assign people to these tasks.
Generally, if it doesn't cost me more money or interfere with my comfort, I'm okay (and only doing a little eye-rolling).
I think by now, most people remaining here have missed my epic tale of our best man's wedding, but... the bride asked one of her guests (wife of groom's friend) to bring a dish before she even knew her name. She had to ask what her name was so she could write it down beside her dish.
It was essentially our "admission" cost to the wedding (among other things). When they first told us they were going to do all their own food, my original thought was to spend what we would've given as a gift (around $200) on food. I was going to get some nice serving dishes that she could keep as part of the gift. When she asked my friend and I were bringing, that went out the window. I made one dish and that was my gift and I'm still upset about it. My friend won't even talk to her.
You'll never be subject to a cash bar, gap, potluck wedding, or b-list if you marry a Muppet Overlord.
I don't mind invitations with the couple's photo on it, for that matter.
Cash bars bother me more if I'm not aware of it before hand because I rarely carry cash, but they're common enough in my area that I'm used to them and typically just won't drink. I wouldn't not go to a wedding or leave one early if there were a cash bar, though.
However, like Muppet, I expect the rest of the beverages to be free -- if you charge me for coffee, I'll judge you for life.
Things that are victimless and don't interfere with my comfort or being hosted properly don't fuss me.
ETA: a cash bar was available for beer, mixed drinks, and whatever else you wanted...that's how I figured out only the pinot grigio was hosted, and the Chardonnay was not lol
In my area that is what most people do. They have partially hosted bars. They will host a red and white wine and a beer, and have a cash bar for hard liquor.
Alcohol being expensive is a ridiculous excuse to have a cash bar. Everything is expensive. If you can't afford it, don't have it. That goes for the hosts, too. So simple.
Tip jars I don't love but they don't bother me nearly as much as cash bars or dollar dances.
After 6 years and 2 boys, finally tying the knot on October 27th, 2013!
Wearing a tux before 6
Dollar dance not having one but everyone in my family does and I don't clutch my pearls.