Thoughts on this plan

LadyMillil · April 2014

But if it rains you can get totes adorbs Pinterest pics with rain boots and umbrellas! Speaking of which, I do have an umbrella with beavers on it that says "Dam! It's raining" that I will use if needed.

The bride doesn't respond well to what she views as criticism on her wedding plans. However, I speak to the MOB quite frequently and I'm confident she doesn't know of this rain/cold plan because she would definitely find it inconsiderate of the guests. I think I'll casually ask what the back up plan is if it rains and let her talk to the bride.

PrettyGirlLost · April 2014

cmfarr said:

I was checking out the wedding website for a wedding I am invited to later this year. The ceremony will take place at an outdoor location with no cover available (so no tent, gazebo, etc) then the reception is at a banquet hall. There is a note basically saying that the bride and groom will be married outside. In the event of light rain or cold, you should bring an umbrella or blanket? This seems really inconsiderate to me. I don't really want to get my nice dress and shoes wet, and as some one who frequently has to deal with umbrellas, this seems very problematic. Has any one ever been to an outdoor wedding in the rain? ETA: the ceremony venue is a family members' yard

Newp and I don't ever plan on it unless there is a covered tent or pavilion. If you are planning an outdoor ceremony or reception, you need to have a back up plan for bad weather that is more substantial than telling your guests to bring an umbrella.

Are you close with this couple? I would probably skip the ceremony if it ended up raining that day. Dressing up for a wedding and then trying not to get wet and muddy doesn't sound very appealing.

PrettyGirlLost · April 2014

cmfarr said:

I should have added, the ceremony location is a family members' yard, so no reason why a tent can't be rented. As far as I know they have a 2-3 hour unhosted gap, so moving everything to the reception location, which is just a banquet hall with no nearby restaurants or bars, will probably lead to other problems. To attend this wedding I would have to fly in the day before, so I'd be really pissed if I paid all that money to come and then skipped the ceremony because the contingency plan is having guests bring umbrellas.

Oh God, just decline already based on the bolded.

starbright2013 · April 2014

I had a cousin who did this - planned an outdoor wedding with no tent and no contingency plan. When asked, they smiled and said "bring an umbrella!" - honestly, it didn't bother me that much. We all knew in advance and if people chose not to come because of it, they had that choice and the bride and groom weren't offended. We all dressed accordingly.

It started raining about an hour and a half before their ceremony, but stopped soon thereafter and we were all dry for the entire thing. Maybe if I'd actually been forced to sit there in the rain with an umbrella I would have a different opinion.

MandyMost · April 2014

Wow, I'm surprised so many people have an issue with this. The bride and groom planned what they want, and told everyone the plans. No one HAS to come if they have a big issue with being cold or the rain. The bride and groom clearly don't have this kind of issue. Some people hate the beach and can't stand being on the sand. Should every beach wedding make sure there's a deck to be on so everyone is "comfortable"? What about a historical church without air conditioning, is that allowed? I mean, people might be hot.

I think this would only be an issue if the bride and groom were under a tent and all the guests were out in the open. But if they're treating their guests the same as themselves, then so be it. It's not everyone's cup of tea, but it doesn't have to be.

lc07 · April 2014

MandyMost said:

Wow, I'm surprised so many people have an issue with this. The bride and groom planned what they want, and told everyone the plans. No one HAS to come if they have a big issue with being cold or the rain. The bride and groom clearly don't have this kind of issue. Some people hate the beach and can't stand being on the sand. Should every beach wedding make sure there's a deck to be on so everyone is "comfortable"? What about a historical church without air conditioning, is that allowed? I mean, people might be hot.

I think this would only be an issue if the bride and groom were under a tent and all the guests were out in the open. But if they're treating their guests the same as themselves, then so be it. It's not everyone's cup of tea, but it doesn't have to be.

I think making sure you aren't subjecting your guests to a situation where they're likely to get pneumonia is important.

LadyMillil · April 2014

@PrettyGirlLost It is a wedding that I really should go. The bride is a relative.

There is a gazebo in the yard, so it wouldn't surprise me if that was where the officiant, bride, groom and WP will be. It would really anger me if they were covered and all the guests were not in the event of rain. When you are planning your wedding there are some things that you have to compromise on and do what is best for your guests, even if it is not exactly what the bride and groom want. To ask your guests to sit in the rain because it is "your wedding" would be something I find inconsiderate. If I invited you to a BBQ at my place and it rained that day, either I would reschedule completely (not an option for a wedding), or move everything under cover (valid option for a wedding) because that is considerate of my guests. Why should the fact that this is a wedding change that?

PrettyGirlLost · April 2014

cmfarr said:

@PrettyGirlLost It is a wedding that I really should go. The bride is a relative.

There is a gazebo in the yard, so it wouldn't surprise me if that was where the officiant, bride, groom and WP will be. It would really anger me if they were covered and all the guests were not in the event of rain. When you are planning your wedding there are some things that you have to compromise on and do what is best for your guests, even if it is not exactly what the bride and groom want. To ask your guests to sit in the rain because it is "your wedding" would be something I find inconsiderate. If I invited you to a BBQ at my place and it rained that day, either I would reschedule completely (not an option for a wedding), or move everything under cover (valid option for a wedding) because that is considerate of my guests. Why should the fact that this is a wedding change that?

Personally, relative or no, I'm not going to be standing around outside in the rain in 50 degree temps or less, for a wedding ceremony. Unless she gets a moment of clarity between now and the wedding and develops a proper back up plan- one involving a tent or an indoor location- I'd skip the ceremony the day of if it was raining.

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