My FMIL went with us to look at the venue we are booking for our reception and she just took over the entire appointment. Saying she likes this but doesn't like this, and they need to change this, and we need to pick this. My fiance and I are footing the bill for the entire wedding and I'm sorry but when the cake and the linens come with the wedding package I'm going to take it. The linens only come in two colors black and ivory and we are doing a blue and silver winter wedding, so I was going to pick black. First thing out of her mouth was, "you can't be serious?! It would be fine for a black and white wedding but not for your colors and not here. I'll pay for the linens only if you don't pick black." (she also hated the damask ivory) She did the same thing with the cake. She doesn't like the bakery they use so she wants to pay for our wedding cake. It seems like every decision we make that she doesn't like or approve of she offers to pay for so she can change it and have it her way. She just recently asked me how many people she can invite... My wedding is in 2016... I told her we are trying to keep it around 150 to 160 people which will give her about 5 couples to work with. Instantly she starts saying that its not enough and she wants to invite more people to the wedding. I just stared at her and said "we can't afford 30 extra people" Quick commenting her, "Then we will take however many people you can give us and we will pay for the rest." I'm getting such a headache over this already. Any advice to a girl who is ready to pull her hair out?? I could sure use some.