Ugggh. I talked to my mom, today. I did not talk to her about the bridal shower. I have decided to let it go. I have dealt with it as best as I could, at that moment. She was late, and I did not wait for her. I told my sister to serve the other guests because it would have been rude to them to let their food get cold. Okay. I have dealt with that issue. She is perpetually late. Nothing will ever change that.
My mother's sister accidentally took my mom's walker home with her. I was calling my mother to see if she wanted me to take her to get another walker. I was talking to my mother about the shower, I had no idea my little sister was at her house... otherwise I would not have discussed any event for my wedding in front if someone who isn't invited. I am estranged from my younger sister, as well. I did not bring up any negative issues with my mother about the shower. The conversation was really pleasant with my mother. Then, my younger sister demanded to talk to me. My mom did not put up much of a struggle, and gave the phone to my younger sister. The conversation was awkward, but pleasant enough. Then my sister said she had not received her wedding invitation, and I told her I haven't sent them out, yet. Then I grew a pair, and said, you know what, I am not going to do this. We do not get along, you do not like me. My wedding day is not the time or place for us to force ourselves to get along. We should have an amicable relationship if you are to go to my wedding. Weddings are stressful enough, and if you take a contentious relationship and fuel it with the expectations of a typical wedding guest (to be happy for the bride and groom,) you are setting yourself up for disaster. She started accusing me of everything, called me names and a whore, amongst some other things she thought I had done to her during the time she was badly into heroin.
I hung up the phone on her. Talking to my little sister will do no good. She will never change. My mother messaged me and apologized to me. I told her that I will never call her house again, because I don't know if my sister is there or not. I should not be discussing my wedding in front of someone who is not invited. I do not need that kind of drama in my life. If my mother wants it, then that is her business, but she should not make it mine. I told her she can call me whenever my little sister is not there, and I will be more than happy to talk to her. I just can't deal with the issues and the constant drama my sister brings. She is still an addict but abuses prescription medication. I don't need that level of instability in my life. I probably will never hear from my mom again, because I am the one who always calls her, but I just can't deal with a substance abuser my mother is enabling to enter my life for the sole purpose of stirring up trouble. I know I came across very harsh, but my mother knew my sister only wanted to talk to me to start a fight. If I wanted to talk to my sister, I would have called her, myself. Forcing me in this situation is not what I need. Where did common sense go?