A good friend of mine thinks she's in my bridal party and is due a month or so before the wedding. She's 4 months pregnant right now and thus VERY hormonal. She thinks she'll be fine, but I'm concerned that she doesn't understand how she will feel after birth and that she won't probably be up to standing up there with me. Plus, she will not have time to alter her dress much and will have to guess at a dress size, which even the dress consultants have told her would be iffy at best.
Her husband is my FI's Best Man and can't watch the baby, so I was hoping she would understand that she would need to. She's asking who I would like to watch her kid! Um, invite list is minimal. I can't afford another guest just to watch her baby and none of my friends or family will want to do it as they are there to see ME and my FI get married.
I never asked her to be in the party, mostly because I know how those first few months usually go after having a baby (I've been there), even with the best of births. She's at risk for a c-section and has always dealt poorly with pain, so I thought she'd figure out that it would be best that she wasn't in the party, but she assumes she's in my wedding party and has been telling people this. I haven't had the opportunity to get her alone to correct her, and now I feel it might be too late to without hurting our friendship.
To be fair and honest, I do not MIND her being in my party. I love her dearly. I just don't want to see her back out in the last month when I likely cannot replace her and I WILL not ask my FI to ask one of his groomsmen to stand down to make our parties even. The flowers and everything will be bought and paid for by then.