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  • cupcait927cupcait927 member
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    I give what I can afford when going to weddings. The covering your plate rule just baffles me on so many levels. I understand totally that a lot of people were brought up adhering to this arbitrary guideline but I just don't understand why people take it seriously. My priorities are paying my bills and keeping a roof over my head. I will do whatever I can to express my joy for the new couple through a gift but I'm not going to break my budget to do so. All that "rule" does is make people who can't afford to give more feel like assholes, which is the complete opposite of how they should feel when giving a GIFT.
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  • ohannabelleohannabelle member
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    MagicInk said:
    I've never thought about "covering my plate", I just give a gift I can afford that I think the couple will like/use. I rarely give money just because...I rarely give money. I like picking out a gift. 

    I think of this way, if I go to a friend's birthday party, I'm not worried about getting a gift that covers the cost of my food, why am I worrying about that at a wedding reception?

    I'm sure as shit not going to ask someone what they're spending on their wedding (as one of the commentators suggested). Its not my business.
    This X 1000. 
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  • SBminiSBmini member
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    ckel24 said:
    I give what I can afford when going to weddings. The covering your plate rule just baffles me on so many levels. I understand totally that a lot of people were brought up adhering to this arbitrary guideline but I just don't understand why people take it seriously. My priorities are paying my bills and keeping a roof over my head. I will do whatever I can to express my joy for the new couple through a gift but I'm not going to break my budget to do so. All that "rule" does is make people who can't afford to give more feel like assholes, which is the complete opposite of how they should feel when giving a GIFT.
    It is really more of a rule of thumb than anything else. As is what the average cost per plate is. I don't actively think about the cost per plate when I decide my gift. I have my minimum based on what I think a good gift is, and I increase it based on how close the couple is to me.
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  • ShadeofGreen816ShadeofGreen816 member
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    I am both relieved and disappointed to find that the OP was deleted. 

    Disappointed because she sounds speshul and absurd and I think that's both funny and depressing. 

    Relieved because I finally just made myself wade through the last 10-11 pages of the "deal-breakers" thread on the E-board. Eeek. I think I gave myself a migraine. I guess it's good that my 5:00am alarm and 13-hr day at the hospital prevented me from drinking....because I totally don't have enough wine!
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  • phiraphira member
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    SarahRN87 said:
    I am both relieved and disappointed to find that the OP was deleted. 

    Disappointed because she sounds speshul and absurd and I think that's both funny and depressing. 

    Relieved because I finally just made myself wade through the last 10-11 pages of the "deal-breakers" thread on the E-board. Eeek. I think I gave myself a migraine. I guess it's good that my 5:00am alarm and 13-hr day at the hospital prevented me from drinking....because I totally don't have enough wine!
    I have stopped reading that thread entirely. I think it's up to 600 unread posts and I'mma let that keep getting higher.
    Anniversary
    now with ~* INCREASED SASSINESS *~
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  • sarahonlifesarahonlife member
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    ckel24 said:
    I give what I can afford when going to weddings. The covering your plate rule just baffles me on so many levels. I understand totally that a lot of people were brought up adhering to this arbitrary guideline but I just don't understand why people take it seriously. My priorities are paying my bills and keeping a roof over my head. I will do whatever I can to express my joy for the new couple through a gift but I'm not going to break my budget to do so. All that "rule" does is make people who can't afford to give more feel like assholes, which is the complete opposite of how they should feel when giving a GIFT.
    Besides that, it bothers me that I'm "supposed" to give a better gift to my cousin whose very wealthy father paid for her extravagant wedding than to my friend who scrimped and saved for a backyard bbq wedding.  Just because one wedding cost $200+ per plate and the other about $10 per plate doesn't mean one person is somehow entitled to a better gift.
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