Okay -- so, FI and I are getting married in October. We both work full time and are saving for the wedding, but definitely are needing outside help. His dad is helping with reception/venue/catering costs but my mom and dad are really not in any position to help us with the wedding financially.
I am very close with my grandpa (mom's dad), and visit him a few times a month, make dinners, have phone calls with him... we have always had a really good relationship. He is living very comfortable, in great shape and often says that he "doesn't have anything to spend his money on."
So, my mom had mentioned to my grandpa that we wanted to come talk to him about a little help with the wedding. He said "Okay, I was thinking about that too."
Fast forward, we met with him on Saturday. The meeting went well. He asked what he could do to help, and we were honest and said there were a couple thousand dollars left that we are budgeting for and working hard for. After talking, we agreed on a number, and then when we left, he turned to me and said "Count on me for $n," which was $500 MORE than what we had discussed. He mentioned that he is happy he is able to help and is glad he is in a good position to do so. All good, right?
Well, yesterday and all day today, I have felt HORRIBLY guilty, nervous and upset about taking any money from him. I've been crying, making myself sick. Why? I am not really sure. My mom is frustrated with me because she thinks I should just be excited and stop thinking about it, and that he wouldn't have done it if he didn't want to. She talked to him today, said he is okay and still feels "fine" about it.
I will call him and say thank you and send a very nice card and probably bake some treats to bring over to him, but why am I SO beside myself over this? I am feeling at a loss at what to do.