I have no words....

KGold80 · May 2014

So, this gem is on WW - http://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/the-groomsmen-are-upset/da2bf54d81b50a2a.html

Apparently someone throwing a PPD doesn't understand why the groomsmen are pissed off that they were not invited to the couple's REAL wedding. Uhhh....yeah, because the other wedding that they are invited to is FAKE.

[Deleted User] · May 2014

I read it as the other way around. The PPD is the one they're having with the grandmothers who want to see the dress. Which, really, is just mean to the grandmothers.

KGold80 · May 2014

adk19 said:

I read it as the other way around. The PPD is the one they're having with the grandmothers who want to see the dress. Which, really, is just mean to the grandmothers.

No, they are having a JOP ceremony in October in front of the grandmothers and then are having the "real" wedding in 2015 even though they will already be married. The 2015 wedding would then be the PPD.

smalfrie19 · May 2014

I cannot handle the ish that goes over on WW.

wrigleyville · May 2014

JIC

"It came to my attention the other night during an outing with FH and two of his future groomsmen that they are upset that there are not going to be any guests or festivities surrounding our grandmother ceremony.

We are having a ceremony this October with just the 4 grandmothers and our parents - that is it, period. It will take no longer than 30 minutes - it is basically a JOP wedding. We have explained to them that this is not the "real wedding" and that is why we are not celebrating or having anyone else there (the real wedding will be in 2015). We explained it will be enough of a hassle for us to handle the grandmothers and their nurses which is why we are doing this in the first place - they obviously will not be at the 2015 wedding but are adamant that they want to see my dress.

Should me and FH sit down and make a card to send to the groomsmen explaining what we are doing and why, and that they should not feel "slighted" I guess?"

wrigleyville · May 2014

Ugh... this comment...

"Emily, while Grey Cat will be really married, she doesn't consider it her real wedding. Please don't be so judgemental. It isn't your wedding, and it's not your call. Thank you. Please keep these forums positive and constructive.

Grey Cat, tell your GM to suck it up lol"

KGold80 · May 2014

Emily should be posting here....not there!

cupcait927 · May 2014

can someone here who has an account on WW please message poor Emily and tell her to come over to TK? I feel like she needs the support of people who also make sense.

short+sassy · May 2014

I love the new vocabulary phrase..."grandmother ceremony".

I think my biggest problem with most PPDs and why I find them distasteful is because it puts the emphasis on the wedding instead of on the marriage. Like you're not REALLY married unless you had a big party and were sporting the big, white poufy dress.

I mean, I sort of get it. Weddings are a lot of fun. I loved being all dolled up in my big, white poufy dress. But the best and most meaningful part of the day was exchanging my vows with my DH. If we had already done that a year ago...it would have greatly subtracted from the day. The whole thing just wouldn't have made sense and been odd.

VulgarGirl · May 2014

ckel24 said:

can someone here who has an account on WW please message poor Emily and tell her to come over to TK? I feel like she needs the support of people who also make sense.

I might have just created an account to rescue the poor girl.

KGold80 · May 2014

MagicInk said:

ckel24 said:

can someone here who has an account on WW please message poor Emily and tell her to come over to TK? I feel like she needs the support of people who also make sense.

I might have just created an account to rescue the poor girl.

I already have an account there. That is where our wedding website is hosted because I preferred their templates (hangs head in shame). I sent her a "request to connect"...whatever the hell that means.

penguin44 · May 2014

short+sassy said:

I love the new vocabulary phrase..."grandmother ceremony".

I think my biggest problem with most PPDs and why I find them distasteful is because it puts the emphasis on the wedding instead of on the marriage. Like you're not REALLY married unless you had a big party and were sporting the big, white poufy dress.

I mean, I sort of get it. Weddings are a lot of fun. I loved being all dolled up in my big, white poufy dress. But the best and most meaningful part of the day was exchanging my vows with my DH. If we had already done that a year ago...it would have greatly subtracted from the day. The whole thing just wouldn't have made sense and been odd.

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I was very confused by the grandmother ceremony. I thought her grandmothers were getting married.

lyndausvi · May 2014

So grandmothers are witnessing a real wedding but the couple does not think as real.

Groomsmen are witnessing something that is not real, but the couple thinks is real.

That makes a whole lot of sense?

pinkcow13 · May 2014

"Girl, your wedding has more issues than a magazine stand!

You need to beat the drama llama back with a stick."

I cracked up so hard at this.

wrigleyville · May 2014

This Marisa chick is grating on my nerves:

"Since they are so fargone, could you forgo the JOP and just do something along a promise ceremony without the marriage certificate? Or do you WANT to get legally married now, and have the wedding of your dreams next year? I think either way is fine, btw, and very sweet to do something small for the grandmas."

KGold80 · May 2014

The OP's wedding is 517 days away according to her profile. So she is getting married SEVERAL months before the so-called "real" wedding.

VulgarGirl · May 2014

KGold80 said:

MagicInk said:

ckel24 said:

can someone here who has an account on WW please message poor Emily and tell her to come over to TK? I feel like she needs the support of people who also make sense.

I might have just created an account to rescue the poor girl.

I already have an account there. That is where our wedding website is hosted because I preferred their templates (hangs head in shame). I sent her a "request to connect"...whatever the hell that means.

I did that as well. Only site I've ever seen with out "private message" as an option. Now I'm just stalking people.

lyndausvi · May 2014

I guess I don't understand why they can't visit the grandmothers in their wedding attire either before or after the ceremony?

I've know couples to do that before. I'm not a gap fan at all, but I would much prefer one that was a result of visiting sick grandparents then solely for pictures.

mschristie123 · May 2014

I couldn't read more than a page or two of that but what seriously irked me was her issue with the groomsmen ("grown men with wives and kids") who were throwing a fit, but not any women. Oh, I'm sorry- men aren't allowed to have emotions? Men aren't allowed to call bullshit when they see it? Women are crazy emotional, hormonal bitches who can be forgiven having a "fit" because they have lady parts?? Seriously?? Such sexist bullshit.

BreMR · May 2014

I'm so glad I stumbled on to TK before Wedding Wire. I was completely oblivious to a lot of these things before I came here. My bf and I had previously discussed a potential destination wedding with a private ceremony here first to avoid the extra costs of a blood test and what not in Mexico.. now I realize how horrible it is and now when we get married it will be local.

TGFTK

JCbride2015 · May 2014

I'm creating an account right now. I must join in the fun.

Anybody else find it weird that WW was able to know the city where I live before I told it? Maybe they are using your IP address or something? Creepy.

ashleyep · May 2014

JCbride2015 said:

I'm creating an account right now. I must join in the fun.

Anybody else find it weird that WW was able to know the city where I live before I told it? Maybe they are using your IP address or something? Creepy.

Probably IP address. It's not that creepy, most websites know where you're posting from.

sarahufl · May 2014

I like how they use the term "grandmother ceremony" as if it is a real thing.

Simply Fated · May 2014

How dare those men have any opinions on a wedding they are groomsmen for? They need to get back to... work and do... manly stuff and stop being a bunch of little girls about this. Siriusly.

buttercup1958 · May 2014

its no longer there very sad panda

singinchick13 · May 2014

I picture the conversation going something like this; "Hey, how come you need me to stand and support you while you say your vows if you have already said them and this is just for show?" and bride and groom really cannot find a good answer other than "but this is the REAL wedding!" I bet at least one of their wives is/was a knottie at some point.

HeatherKat · May 2014

I broke it. Sorry, ladies. $:\$

KGold80 · May 2014

HeatherKat said:
I broke it. Sorry, ladies. $:\$

That was you? Seemed like it isn't something you want to do anyway.

HeatherKat · May 2014

KGold80 said:

I broke it. Sorry, ladies. $:\$
That was you? Seemed like it isn't something you want to do anyway.

No, I mean that I posted about what a terrible idea it was and was called out as being part of a TK invasion, since the thread was linked here. I sure wasn't the OP!

KGold80 · May 2014

HeatherKat said:

KGold80 said:

HeatherKat said:
I broke it. Sorry, ladies. $:\$
That was you? Seemed like it isn't something you want to do anyway.

No, I mean that I posted about what a terrible idea it was and was called out as being part of a TK invasion, since the thread was linked here. I sure wasn't the OP!

Oh! Thank goodness! I posted on that thread too.

doeydo · May 2014

I just joined, yay

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