Hi all,
FI and I can't stop fighting long enough to get any actual planning done and it is becoming problematic...
From the very first wedding convo we ever had, we have been unable to keep a conversation civil long enough to plan anything. In every other aspect of our relationship we have wonderful communication, I mean well above average, but when it comes to the "W" word.....it goes downhill fast.
We have been engaged for 6 months, and have zero plans, because, well, literally every time we talk about it we come up with a new plan to try to fit in with what the other says they want. It has become a routine, and we are both so ready to be done with it. We both still love each other very much and really do want to spend our lives together. I have suggested skipping the wedding more than a few times, but he insists he absolutely wants us to have a wedding. Neither of us is willing to relinquish complete control, and we have tried every exercise and worksheet and method in our attempt to plan it (for example, rules that we won't talk about it for a few weeks, or that we only speak about it via email, or making lists of the things that are important to us and rating them from highest to lowest importance, etc etc).
We are really really trying, both of us, but we just can't seem to get anywhere. Meanwhile, FI wants to shorten our timeline and aim to get married in July/August/September 2014 (yes, as in 2/3/4 months). I am perfectly happy to do this, but.....how?
I mean, I know how to plan the wedding in 2 months, I have mock planned 6 to 8 weddings at this point in an attempt to get this puppy planned, so I'm good on that and know what our limits, etc are, but how can we possible do that when we can't get this bird off the ground?
I'm pretty positive it isn't normal at this point....and I'm very near taking the stance that if we can't figure out how to start planning a wedding constructively then we don't deserve to have one! Advice?