Multiple Gifts to Multiple Showers? And a wedding gift?

Re: Multiple Gifts to Multiple Showers? And a wedding gift?

• MobKaz member

  

  May 2014

  It was rude of her to put you on the guest list multiple times.  You are not obligated to attend any of the showers.  You have already been beyond generous.  If you were to be so kind as to attend yet another shower, do not think of yourself as attending "empty handed".  You are going full hearted!  She should be lucky to have someone like you in her life.

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• chibiyui member

  

  May 2014

  I find it odd you are being invited to more then one shower. Are you a bridesmaid as well? I would just give her one gift, and then a wedding gift, and if not a bridesmaid, I would not attend the other showers.
  
  I hope there isn't more overlap in all those showers.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  

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• clcountry member

  

  May 2014

  I'm not a bridesmaid, but we were very, very close growing up. One of the shower is being thrown at her parent's church, so there will be lots of people there that I know and would like to see (this one is actually for people not invited to the wedding and they requested no gifts (I know, but I have no say), so not taking a gift to that one would not be odd). There will be a lot of overlap of guests between the one I threw and at least one of the other ones, but it's all close family, so I don't think they'll mind. I mean, I wouldn't do it, but we're two very different people.

  I'm glad it's okay to not take gifts. I honestly would like to, but I'm bending the bank a little already, so I will probably just buy the original gift I had planned to give at the wedding and let the rest go.

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• JCbride2015 member

  

  May 2014

  Holy crap, that is a lot of showers. It was rude of the bride to allow you to be invited to more than one shower. I would decline all but one shower, and stick to your original gift plan.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  "I'm not a rude bitch.  I'm ten rude bitches in a large coat."

  
  

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• clcountry member

  

  May 2014

  To clarify, I know it is technically rude to invite people to more than one shower, and as I said, I wouldn't do it, but this is my cousin and childhood BFF. I will know almost everyone at all of these showers and will enjoy visiting with them. It also wasn't  a formal invitation, but more of a "hey, we're having these, too, and you're welcome if you would like to come." I'm not upset about being invited.

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• HisGirlFriday13 member

  

  May 2014

  Dude. No one needs five damn showers. And no one other than MOB should be invited to more than one shower, BFF or not.
  
  That being said, I'd attend them to be supportive and I'd give a small gift. And by 'small' I mean 'token.'

  

  
  

  
  

  I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'

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• manateehugger member

  

  May 2014

  That is a ridiculous number of showers, and informally inviting you to these showers is also ridiculous if you ask me. 

  
  

  I'd be declining these showers. I understand you'd like to visit with these people, but the whole point of a shower is to give the bride gifts. I'd give a gift at one shower, and then a card and small gift at the wedding. 

  

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• NYCMercedes member

  

  May 2014

  If you want to go, then do so and have fun. No more gifting is necessary.

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