My wedding is exactly a month away (yay!!), and I'm working now on finalizing details about music and readings and the like. My fiance and I are both Catholic so will be having a full mass. Most of our family and friends, and even our wedding party who are mostly family, are not Catholic and range from happily tolerating our faith to open dislike for either religion or the Church. There has been a lot of grumbling that we've dealt with about how selfish and exclusive we're being by having a mass, but I can't imagine being married without the Eucharist so have stood firm!
Does anyone have tips to making a Catholic Mass tolerable to those who don't share the faith? I've selected joyful instrumental music in hopes of demonstrating through art the beauty of the faith, and am putting instructions in our program about what is going on so people can follow what is going on and choose to participate where they feel comfortable doing so, but is there anything else I missed that could make people happier? I love attending mass, and part of me is a little sad that guests may find this mass that I'm so much looking forward as something to suffer through...